Love help: I just need to let this pain out, it’s not even a real question… - Help.com

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You’re correct that you have to–somehow–learn to love yourself, to feel ok with being confident. In my experience, if you aren’t confident and feel like you’re not worth it, people (including this guy, maybe?) pick up on that. It’s like a vicious cycle.
I can’t give you great advice on how to “love” yourself–that’s something I’m currently struggling with. I try a couple of things, though, that have helped me a little, maybe they’ll help you? Find one thing that you feel you’re really good at. A school subject, telling jokes, writing (because I think this is a very well-written post [;), comforting friends/family, even being neat and tidy. If you recognize that there is something you ARE good at, something that you can go better than a person you know, that might give you a sense of pride, no matter how small. For myself, I just keep looking for the small things I know I do well, and it makes me feel good about myself. I see that as a form of “loving” yourself. It’s kind of long-term work, but it’s something.
As for this guy. Why don’t you talk to him? It doesn’t have to be about your feelings or anything like that, just say something to him. A comment on the weather, a joke…anything so long as you have actually said something to this guy who has earned so much affection on your part. It might make you feel better to know that you’ve done something, made some sort of contact. It’s all in the baby steps.

You are doing the right thing by expressing yourself! Keep on expressing yourself. Turn the pain into a poem or a painting or a song. Let your creativity feed from this, it is one thing pain can be useful for.
We all hurt this way Optti, I promise you, everyone suffers in his/her own way. Not that that is any comfort when you are depressed.
Feel your pain. You all ready know that you are good, that you will be ok.
You will be ok.
You are ok!
You have helped me to gain perspective on my own situation. Thank you for the expression.