life help: I’ve never been so ashamed.

virgin_queen

I’ve never been so ashamed.

I have spent three years at college goofing around, spending more time with friends and hobbies than on my schoolwork, and my GPA shows it (it’s currently 2.8). That kind of academic resume will certainly not help me find promising career opportunities when I graduate next spring. Because my parents were sort of well-off my whole life, I’ve never really felt compelled to get a job to support myself and to create an admirable job resume. Now that things are especially tough (economy), getting a job is all the more necessary and important.
These things–my lack of responsibility and maturity–mean that I have created a horrible position for myself. On top of my own self-disappointment, my parents are justly disgusted with my performance and general attitude, and things are very tense and sad in my house these days. I feel all the more worse knowing I have let them down so much.
I guess I’m wondering if anyone else has done things similar to my predicament; has anyone else experienced so much self-disappointment? Has anyone gone through all this and come out the other end, with success? I’m pretty low these days, and I feel it might help to know that I’m not the only one who has screwed up so badly, but discovered that there is still hope.

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littlenick 149 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

Yes. you’re not the only one. I feel like that too. Except that I graduated from college and so far I have not worked in the field from which I graduated in and my degree has just been getting old and now I’m here stuck.

Abba Zabba 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

At least you people have gone to college, I have yet to get up off my **** and do something about furthering my education. I still don’t know what to do, don’t know where I want to live and don’t have any money. So yeah, you are definitely not alone with feeling kind of useless and with feeling like a smidgen of a failure.

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littlenick 149 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

Time to crack the books and get stepping on the study department!

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

Sure, with promosing results like yours and virgin_queen, I now really feel like wasting a couple of years of my life just so I can say that I have a degree. No offense ofc :) But yeah don’t want to hijack the thread so continue.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

Are you disappointed in yourself truly or are you disappointed in the fact that you gave your time to others and all you got out of it in return is a bad GPA.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

I have had depression for years too. But after a time I have found that I really did not like my job my focus myself. I did not go what after what I wanted but now I am going to. SO try to find out where his spirit of adventure and interest is and help him bring it to reality. I found that 20 years of taking care of others needs was a safe career (Nurse)but my lifes ambition and love is in art design imagination I was gonna go to school for it instead of nursing, but for where I was living and the type of life I lead, it wasn’t practical so I took the career to where the job market was in the area but now I am back to wanting my art design and market my imagination which is unbearable to some and remarkable to others. Find out what he cares about or what he used to and bring it alive. He needs his spirit back.

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mswrite #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

If nothing catches his kindred spirit you need to really and fast call for real help.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 15 hours after post)

That is a valuable lesson you can teach your kids someday, and something many of us are having to deal with now — things we didn’t take care of and were not responsible for in the past, coming back to bite us in the butt. I’d say hop to, chop chop! It’s not too late. Do your best and change your attitude now that you have recognized the problem. It will be very hard for you but not impossible. More than a resume, employers look at your attitude. If you have a no holds barred approach from now on, it will take you far. (just try to pull up your GPA!)

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 17 hours after post)

You should never be ashamed of yourself anytime. Instead of wasting your time and energy in being ashamed, disappointed and cursing yourself, you should use all that energy in trying to achieve what you want in your life. You are in a better situation now than you were before because you realized what is going wrong in your life and why it is going wrong. Always, if you understand a problem, you are half way through its solution. So, you should NEVER lose your hope. From now on, be positive and try to do what you can do instead of contemplating on why you wasted so much of time.

L.J 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (3 weeks, 1 day after post)

The same thing happened to me this last year. The year before this I was an above average student. So next year, I know I’ll get back right on track. Just whatever you do DON’T waste the rest of your time with non-important things, distractions. Make your parents proud & finish the kind of student you should’ve been the past few years.

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