life help: How do you keep fights about money and etc. - Help.com

HI there, newlyweds, huh? Well, I have been married this time makes #3, but been threw alot in the 10 yrs with the #husband, 5yrs with #2, now just remarried Jan 6-06, I am only 31 yrs old, my new loving wonderful husband is 22, we get along great and he fathers my two kids ages 14 and 9 like there his own…I know how money problems can affect a marriage and a family.. I say get on a budget, sit down and just lay it all out in front of you both and see it all in balck and white, bills… We manage to get ourselves in this debt easier than we know, it hits you often fast at the worst of moments, I know. Struggling to make it on top right now as we are speaking… Just first off talk, dont yell or stress out over bills, you cant controle this if you are both upset or angry. I know that’s hard to say but step back and realise that you both really do love eacchother and you can and will make it threw this, focus on that…. You managed to get yourselves into this and you will get out, just trust eachother and talk, comunication is a # 1 rule, if you cant talk to him, then can he talk to you, one of yall must be the level headed one, or share that…. It’s all within you both…I hope that I have been some help, if so lets talk more okay, thanks Jenn from Alabama

Also the wanting to own a house is everyones dreams, hey I am 31 and rent, sometimes you just have to crawl before you can walk, ya know?? Just slowly rebuild your credit apply for a small credit card, only just use it for gas each month , now but dont charge more than you can pay at the end of that same month, that way you have a revolving account and as long as you pay it right you can slowly rebuild your credit, welll bye for now talk to yoiu later Jenn from Alabama

hi,it not easy but everything is going to be allright.talk to ur family maybe there can help u.

Hey look missy,

Try our hardest to work out your marriage. the #1 cause of divorce in america is financial problems. you all should have your bills consolidated and pay on them either bi-weekly or monthly. another thing, how old is your husband? you both look very young. also do either of you have any family that will co-sign for you on a loan. i know people hate co-signers, but, the reality is…you all need finacial help. i don’t know if you guys have any children, but if you do continue to work hard to take care of them; but if you don’t…..leave them where they are right now!!!! the reason i say that because children can become an even bigger financial problem.

Also missy, do not lose hope on your marriage. it can work. i agree with jennterry. owning a home is everyones dream, but i promise you you don’t need the headache. at least with apartment living you don’t have to worry about the maintenance. if something gets torn up, call the landlord…sometimes certain utilities are included. you don’t haev to worry about purchasing major appliances, other than a washer/dryer and you really don’t have to get that right away, go to the laundro mat. you guys don’t even have to get anything huge being just the two of you will live there. also eliminate unneccesary things. (the things you guys can live without.) i know everybody wants “cable” this is a luxury it is not a neccesity. so deal with “able,” whatever channels you all are able to get. the most important things are shelter, food, running water, electricity, and something to sleep on. everything else will come.

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