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c1janicemathew

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Hi I’m janice. Just recently joined….. This seems like the place where I can say anything.. And not feel crazy! So here’s a little about me. I’m 19…. I’m a southern girl…. Might be good might be bad. I hate close minded people…. I wish I knew why I was here. I wish I understood the meaning( If there is one) to life…. I’ve been going through alot lately… My husband and I are on rocky terms….. Mainly because I can’t control my emotions….so I told him I needed help, I cried and told him I felt like I was going crazy…. He swore to take me to a doctor, but never did. Now we’re broke so I can’t go…. All he does all god **** day is sleep…. He wakes up to eat and ****…. If he’s not doing one of those he on his phone talking to people…. Writing blogs, blah blah blah. My point is he ignores me all the time now…. I literally have to beg for his attention and then we fight because he says he’s not my ******* play mate, he’s my husband. Don’t marry a god **** 18 year old girl and expect her to just be content with you ******* doing nothing!!! I want out, but it’s complicated… No kids thank god… But he has PTSD from war and I know that if I ever left him he’d kill himself. I don’t know why he even wants me around anymore! All I am is a god **** nuisaance to him… Agh!!!! How did my life end up like this???? If you wouldve asked me when I graduated highschool where was I gonna be in two years…. I wouldve told you with absolute certaintity that I’d be in nursing school working my *** off to get a degree…. Now I haven’t been to school in a year, i’m a nervous wreck. I don’t sleep. I hate myself. Does anyone think Its true that some people bring out the best in people, and others bring out the worst? I feel like my husband has brought our the worst in me and I’m too afraid to do anything….. I’m ******* trapped on this ride I call my life…. I wish I had to guts to just ******* end or all!!!

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ameliaearthlin 22 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Do u want to be with your husband?

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ni #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (18 minutes after post)

If you both love each other then you can work together to make things okay. It sounds like some big changes need to happen anyways. And if he would really kill himself if you left…then why is it okay for you to drive YOURSELF to have thoughts about killing YOURSELF? Do you talk to him about these things?

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Sugar Girl 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Have it annulled. Its sounds like your not right for each other. I know it would be annoying is i said you were to young anyway so I wont say it. You are still young. If he acts like this he will understand that you want to go finish school and have fun. He would also. I think he would do better in life if he also finishes school! Any way, you have my best of luck!
Hope it goes well.
Bye

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ni #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (35 minutes after post)

Sugar Girl wrote:
Have it annulled. Its sounds like your not right for each other. I know it would be annoying is i said you were to young anyway so I wont say it. You are still young. If he acts like this he will understand that you want to go finish school and have fun. He would also. I think he would do better in life if he also finishes school! Any way, you have my best of luck!
Hope it goes well.
Bye

Bye. Topic poster, please do not take advice from a response that is riddled with typos and inaccuracies. If ‘Sugar Girl’ would have presented her point in a reasonable manner and didn’t offer an absolute solution to a situation she only knows 2 paragraphs about…then it might be worth your while to listen to her.

Anyways; you might not find the precise help that you need here. What you can do though is to take your time and come up with a reasonable plan for how to approach the rest of your life. Good luck.

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stainhengg #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (39 minutes after post)

life is to short, be a strong young woman, leave him go to school everything else will fall in to place. it will take some time but have faith in yourself and you will be fine you are the only one that matters anyway good luck

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♪The Music of Love 1 #
Santa Barbara, CA, US | 5 months ago (54 minutes after post)

maybe you and your husband aren’t meant to be together. after all you were young when you married, most people change quite a bit when they move away from home and experience new things. some young marriages do work out, but a lot of them don’t. the younger you are the more likely that you’re gonna grow apart over time as you mature. he needs a friend right now and so do you. as much as you might have loved each other or even still do, its a decision of whether you can be a friend as well as a wife or if being a friend and a wife is too hard. either way he should be there for you and you should be there for him.

Ni,
just because everybody doesn’t have proper grammar or doesn’t present things in multiple paragraphs and gives there opinion (which is not an absolute in anyway) doesn’t make it worth nothing. Not to mention spelling and expressing ones self through writing can be a learning disability. so next time can you please not tell a person looking for help to completely disregard another persons advice because its not up to your standards, and honestly it’s very rude and disrespectful to the person giving advice.

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ni #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (1 hour after post)

♪The Music of Love wrote:
Ni,
just because everybody doesn’t have proper grammar or doesn’t present things in multiple paragraphs and gives there opinion (which is not an absolute in anyway) doesn’t make it worth nothing. Not to mention spelling and expressing ones self through writing can be a learning disability. so next time can you please not tell a person looking for help to completely disregard another persons advice because its not up to your standards, and honestly it’s very rude and disrespectful to the person giving advice.

I’m just here to help the people looking for help. If someone offers advice that isn’t rational or deals with an absolute (–”Have it annulled” IS an absolute) then I’m going to tell the topic poster to think twice about that responders advice.

What if a person was posting in an electrical storm with a laptop while flying a kite and someone told him or her to keep flying the kite? Of course I would tell the person looking for help to disregard said person. I know these things are in varying degrees but helping people comes first and foremost.

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♪The Music of Love 1 #
Santa Barbara, CA, US | 5 months ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

Ni, this is my last comment because i don’t want to start a conversation on here, but “have it annulled” was part of her advice and you should at least respect her advice. there will be other advice as well given, but its the help seekers opinion that should matter. she mite like the idea of getting annulled and its a completely valid opinion on what she could do. its an option for her just as much as staying with him is valid advice. helping people does come first and foremost, but if you tell the help seeker to disregard perfectly valid advice your not really helping but telling her to lean toward your absolute.
sorry C1 dint mean to go into this discussion on your topic

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