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Well, I would make other friends. Because before you know it, your friends will start influencing you to do drugs. Don’t think it cannot happen because it can. As far as your girlfriend not doing drugs out of respect for you, I find that somewhat shady. Your girlfriend should not do drugs because of her own morals and principals not because she respects you. So you mean if you were not around, she would do drugs? What gives?

I say you should find new friends. Don’t hang around with drug addicted friends.

And you’re the killjoy of the party or the party pooper, you just don’t do drugs. Period. And you should keep it like that.

sounds like you know the answer already. Although it is one that you don’t want to make. It would be easier if you could accept them and they you as you all are, but… somethings gotta give through compromise and I’ll be honest, they aren’t going to be the ones to compromise.

They don’t see the negative side to drugs and drinking… their mentality is if it isn’t broke, don’t fix it. If they get enjoyment out of it, then how can it be wrong?

In the long run, if you stay, they’ll either conveniently forget to invite you on outings with them, and distance you from the group all together, or you’ll compromise your morals and standards all in the name of friendship.

( I’ve been there done that… not drugs, but I’ve been the same position you are in and I had alot of talk behind my back and they slowly distanced themselves…) Friends do come and go and it is better to be proud of the things you have done and the things you haven’t done( By NOT compromising your moral character)than to give into friendship.
You have a really good footing in this life, do not allow yourself to be talked into something and do not allow yourself to be willing to do something that you in the future would not do, or allow your children to do.
I’m proud of you for seeing this so early! It’s gonna hurt, but it’s better to find new friends who you can be proud of!
I’m proud of you!

I meant to say you’re NOT the killjoy or party pooper, you just don’t do drugs. Period.

In the end, we can only count on ourselves. And we’re the ones out in the cold when all the doors have closed on us. Do what you feel is right for you. If you have to leave your “friends” behind because they are drug users, leave them behind.

jack2 wrote:
To be honest i would find new friends. I was going to say live and let live but in the end something will give. I was in your situation and was unfortunately not strong enough. I gave in to pressure and now i can’t have a night out without doing drugs and can’t remember how i had fun before i was involved in drugs. I’m now always depressed and hate myself the next day. Its an awful thing to get involved in.

There! Need I say more?

Anyone for a positive drug story…? Probably not ey ;p

Look - Doing drugs is a choice. If these people you are hanging around with, are just people to fill your time with, then I would agree - try and find new friends, people who share similar views and interests.

But

If these people mean something to you, I would definately think it would be a wrong decision to walk away because you disagree with some of their habits.

I respect you’re anti-drugs, and the way I see it, you seem to have enough of a reason/motivation to not give into the pressure of it. I can’t imagine you’ll get involved just to fit in. If you’re prepared to leave the entire friend group because of this, then obviously you feel very strongly about drugs, but at the same time - you want them to respect the fact you disagree with what they do, but all they want is to be able to make their own decisions.

Good luck dude.

Peace