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my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half now.

At the very begining we started seeing alot of each other, and after three months or so i moved in, “we were in love”. We had a lot of fun together, we were always together, until i became pregnant…. After i became pregnant i became anti social and he really hated that cause he was a very social person, we fought about this alot. We lived in this tiny basement apartment which we hated and we were constantly at each others throats… To say the least we have had alot of fights and almost broken up a few times… Since then it has gotten better i guess, we bought a house together, and we had our baby. Im so stressed, and depressed, and i just dont know what to do about it… Especially with a new baby, and i`m still quite young, i just turned 19! I just feel so alone, my bf seems to not care half as much as he used to, all he cares about is playing video games…. If anybody could offer any advice i would love to hear some, cause im at the end of my rope, i just feel so low and alone lately…

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Well, video games might just be a phase.
For me it was.
Now I see how pointless they are, but don’t tell that straight to him….
I’m not sure how to get someone un-addicted, actually.
Sorry.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Ah the classic “Oh ****” situation eh? What he said is probably the best thing you can do. Maybe sit him down have a serious talk to tell him how you feel.
Remember kid, don’t get pregnant till your married, its called a condum(And other things to help, obviously)This sounds, unfortunately, like a guy you might not want to be with for the rest of your life. But try.
Sorry to hear it

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faraway.23 offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Regina, SK, CA | 5 months ago (8 minutes after post)

its not just the video games, he just seems to be in another world!

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (12 minutes after post)

As i said, a serious talk. Also as i said, he might just be a loser.
You might have done something your really gonna regret.
The true test of a relationship is making it to the 2 year point. Once you’re there its pretty safe to assume whatever you have(If it appears as strong as when you started) is there to stay.

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faraway.23 offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Regina, SK, CA | 5 months ago (16 minutes after post)

i have tried to talk about the vdeo games, he says he doesn play them that often, which is bull… But he also says it helps him relax, which is okay but to play them hour after hour, come on…

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (21 minutes after post)

Ok, now i play video games quite a bit and i guarentee you everything he tells you is bs then.
Video games are NOT relaxing, at all.
And its true, v-games can go hour after hour for some people.
Everything is good in moderation. Here is what i would do.
Do anything you can to give him something to do. I quit video games when i was addicted to get a better life. And it worked with a hundred percent sucess. I still play but its an hour or two a day at the most.
The worlds most relaxing thing to me(and im starting to sound like a broken record) is a jacuzzi/hot tub/spa(Whatever the hell you want to call it)
I sit in mine every night to relax, look up at the stars, and think. Something to do by yourself for sure, its an instant escape from your family, which everyone needs.
Thats just the way things are

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faraway.23 offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Regina, SK, CA | 5 months ago (24 minutes after post)

ic, well thank you!

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (1 hour, 37 minutes after post)

I know what its like to feel like someone who seemed to be crazy about you all of a sudden seems to loose all interest. I know they hate being asked constantly too, but when you ask 100 times hoping they change and it doesn’t it gets really old. Im sure its just because he’s young and stressed about the baby. Im sorry I cant be more help because I never knew what to do about it… I do think that you should seek help for yourself because that will probably change your way of thinking and maybe it will change your outlook on how he feels

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (18 hours, 20 minutes after post)

Hi i know what you are going through because im going through the same and i have been with my bf for three years and he still plays v-games but you no what you have to think about yourself and your baby the most maybe be he will come around maybe he want.

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