therapy help: When I was a kid…my older sister got all of everyones attention. - Help.com

thats totally understandable.

are you with someone now? for a while it seemed so, but then you started talking about other men, and you kind of lost me :S

I am with someone now. Have been for several years. He is dominant and aggressive and SO smart..but..lets just say to talk about his flaws would only make you ask why I stay..and my answer would be because I love him. He is aware of my needs…and tries to accommodate which I appreciate..but he’s STILL (after all these years) not very good at it..lol

He was not my first WRONG choice..just the 2nd longest one

well, everyone has their flaws. if your happy with the person he is, flaws and all good for you :)

well… some people try to change, but of course they are them still deep deep down, i guess i can only wish you luck, unless theres a specific wuestion you need help with?

Anonymous wrote:
He was not my first WRONG choice..just the 2nd longest one

ah… so your not happy?

… sorry it has been a long day, and the dentists office messed up the procedure and im in alot of pain, so i am a bit… out of it lol :)

I am happy enough to stay..but the bouts of unhappiness come too often. There are other people in our relationship so to speak..and they all came after me. Some are now permanent. I know I should leave and I have tried..my loyalty won’t let me..and I am convinced that given the chance we will get it together. You would think that by now I would get that that doesn’t work…it hasn’t YET…but I love him MORE than I want to leave him…and there is no question that he loves me or how much..or how crazy..you know ..that crazy love. I think I am afraid to lose that

ahh… yes i know what you mean.

i fell in love with a girl who told me she loved me, and would always be there for me when i needed her… till she did not need me anymore. :(

she was looking for one thing… and one thing only… and when she found out that i would not just give that to her… well she abandoned me.

i later found out that she was… ya know with EVERY one of her friends that was a guy… i was just going to be a name on a list…

funny thing is… i still loved her :(

i still do love her… even though i hate her… its hard to explain. :S

because of her i lost alot… all for the hopes that i would gain something… love makes you greedy believe it or not.

and i wanted that to work so much… because i never really had a mother or father to love me…

no, i know exactly how that feels. and i also know i cant tell you what to do. i cant tell you whats the best choice for you… because there is none. every story is different… my story took a bad turn, but i learned from it.

i hope you can too… whatever happens i hope you realize that it happened for a reason. maybe the whole sister thing happened and this happened so you could help other people, maybe t happened so you could help yourself… i dont know. you have to figure that out.

i really hope that things work out for you… sorry if i got too… dramatic in my post as well… it sounded like you were just ranting in your post… but i feel like everyone deserves help, no matter who you are, and i hope i offered some kind of help to you.

im going to leave a link to my site with you as well, in case the part of the story i told you intrests you… you can read it all if you want, im making that site to hopefully help other people somehow… and i dunno maybe you know someone it could help, or maybe it could help you too.

http://cadys-story.webs.com/

again… i hope things work out for you, and i wish you the best :)