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this is a help site, we all have. is there something spesific you want or do u just want a chat

Na no prob i just wondered if you needed to know something spesific.
Be there for som1 that needs you
Offer the best advice you can
If they dont follow your advice & it all goes wrong dont do the “i told you so”!

Good luck :-)

I’ve let people live with me that didn’t have any place else to go so they could get back on their feet. I also foster cats and find them permanent homes.

Mostly positive.

My father is an alcoholic and a few years back he went into rehab. He had no where to go when he got out so my husband and I had him come live with us. The agreement was he could stay as long as he did not drink. He stayed with us for over a year. He had no income and was waiting to get disability. Financially we were struggling at this time also.

There was good and bad in the experience. My husband and father do not get along. So it intensified their dislike for each other. I was put in the middle and it sucks to be in the middle. My father ended up drinking and it was three strikes and you are out. That was hard to do. To kick out your father.

The good that came out of it was my children and my father are very close now. They gained so much from being around him. He loves them so much and they will always have that now.

Also, he has always been a spiritual person and tried a lot of different churches. While staying with us, he started going to our church. It was just what he needed. He has made friends there and brings him a great comfort to go each week. Now that we have moved away from there, he stays in the area because he loves the church. He has stayed sober too. Goes to AA a few times a week.

It was a hard experience for me. But I also know that it was worth it. I would say my father and I know each other better now. And now that my father is sober and can look at my husband through sensible eyes, he does not judge him so harshly. My husband is more stubborn and avoids dealing with my father at all. But he does not try to come between the children and their grandfather or my father and I.

I would do it again. I can’t say I would change anything, but I advise anyone who is having a parent come live with them, to be prepared for the emotional roller-coaster.

I can’t say there has been anything that has moved me to take a public stand for or against it. Of course their are things that I have a views on, but there has not been something that has personally made me want to get up and rally for or against it.

Perhaps I have, perhaps I haven’t.
The only thing I do to try to help people is talk to them, which is what I am not good at. But it’s the best way to try to connect to them and their stories that hurt them.
I would think that it helps, mostly.
I would do it again and again if I need to.

pleasemew/myselfhelp wrote:
So is there something special that you do, or is it just quite simple + ordinary — basically providing a place to live until they’re able to find something where they can live on their own?

Just provided a place to live until they found their own place.

Thanks.