Well..
I don’t know what I’m looking for but here’s my story:-
I met a girl in November, 4 months after splitting with my 7 year fiancé. We get on great and end up getting together. She has a son and a daughter to two different dads, the daughter is two and has ADHD, long story short she gives custody of her daughter to the daughters dad. I advised against it, if she thought it the right decision, to try it for a week or two and DON’T sign anything. She ignored this and signed her away. A week later the son’s dad takes his son away from her, thinking that because she had given her daughter up, she couldn’t handle her son either. Her family turn on me, they blamed me! So I backed off and told her I would go away and give her time to sort this out as her children are the most important thing to her.
During this time I would see her 1-2 times a week. She was going to her daughters dads house to ’see her daughter’ I was paranoid because her daughter goes to sleep at 6pm, yet she wasn’t getting home from a 20min walk till 9pm. But got past it. Until I find out she has been sleeping with her ex every day she was there, even staying over on some nights but telling me she was with friends. I had found out that she would be laughing about me. Saying things like she wished I got shot in the head. Telling her friends that she had slept with her ex, not had a bath and was then sleeping with me. I gave her head one night after he had.. ejaculated inside her. Graphic, I know. I found out about this and contacted her, she was drunk somewhere. So I left it till the next day, I was distraught. She swore on her kids lives she hadn’t, numerous times. Untill eventually she broke and admitted it. So then I accept her telling me the ‘truth’ and begin to make excuses for her behavior. It was my fault, everybody else had messed with her head.
We managed to sort it out and have a few good months. Her sons dad let her have her son back because I had sorted her head out, we were happy. Then things start to go sour again. I end up getting moody because she gets defensive, I had no trust so I’d ask her questions, she couldn’t handle it. It’s my fault and she can’t understand why I can’t trust yet? Eventually, in one night after an argument, I poured my heart out to her, and she told me she cheated on me to spite me, because she blamed me for her giving her daughter up!! (omfg!) And that she hates me.. that’s why she keeps continually lying to me about almost EVERYTHING she’d say to me in a day. I think “Ok, well now we know where the problem is” and try to get her to realise this herself and fix it, to stop blaming me. This changes nothing, a week later we have a strange fallout, neither of us talk, we ask, “is this working” my reply is “No, not unless you sort your head out, stop lying to me and start putting some effort into this relationship” (I did pretty much EVERYTHING for her). I give her the choice, You try or I leave. She chose, so I left.
After texting begging her to try with me, with no reply, I get the police come to arrest me for “Possession of firearms with intent to harm, Assault, Imprisonment” (OMFG!!!!) they raided my house, threw me in a van and detained me. I told them my side and currently I’m on bail awaiting CPS’s decision. Now what’s happened, is that she has split with me, and instead of accepting responsibility because she was a liar and a cheat, she has told people I was this monster, so she looked like the victim and got attention. She had told a ‘male friend’ who went to the police, and she went along with it and made a statement against me. COMPLETELY FASLE!
I don’t quite know what I want from posting this story.. but I feel dead inside, I lost the girl I love, I lost her son and ontop of the pain of that, she tries to hurt me in even more ways than she already has done. You fall in love and do your best for someone, everything you can, give enough but don’t push too much.. the perfect partner (as she told me I was), and then they do this kind of thing to them?! I’d rather somebody put a gun to my head and pulled the trigger than go through this.
What do I do from here..? I wake up in the mornings and cry, I don’t know who I am or what I want anymore.. I have no idea what I will be doing in the next hour let alone the rest of my life, my only fear now is that I live for the next 40 years going through this torture time after time.
Is there ANY decent people left out there? Anywhere?? How do I stop attracting the Psycho’s? Is it good to run away and start fresh somewhere else in a totally different culture? What are my options? The way I feel right now, I want to go and stand on the corner where the angels sit. If there’s no reply, or whatever.. thanks for taking the time to read and I hope this can help somebody in some way, somewhere…
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