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what happened?

no one and i repeat no one can be blamed for that he clearly knew what he was doing, and peoples moods change daily, hour to hour and minuet to minuet so you werent to know what his intentions were

Wow! I’m so sorry. How did it happened, if you don’t mind talking about it?

OK. How are you really holding up?

Can I cry on your behalf? :(

god sakes, sorry for you loss and everything, but its a little difficult to feel bad when the post isnt even posted in an understandable form of english

Because even if I cannot cry on your behalf, I already am. :(

Dr. Foreman wrote:
god sakes, sorry for you loss and everything, but its a little difficult to feel bad when the post isnt even posted in an understandable form of english

I think that’s the least of her worries, mate.

dear, that is terrible, so sad - i am speechless…

but you must hang on, hold yourself together and be brave.
for the sake of you and anybody that ever cared for you,
you need to get up on your feet and take good care of yourself.

mourn as much as you need,
but bare in mind that you will not let yourself sink into it,
that your legs are waiting for you to stand up again, with your head held high.

forgive yourself.
i know how hard it is…
a good friend of mine killed himself (few years ago), and i knew something was wrong, i felt i should talk to him but i didn’t, and i blame myself to this very day.

however, i understand why i didn’t.
i wasn’t sure i was good enough a friend for me to ask him personal questions, and i didn’t believe he would tell me, i made a decision…
i don’t say it was a right one, but i know why i ended up making it.
and i forgive myself about it. there is nothing i can do.

you must do so.
give yourself all the time you need,
and forgive yourself. there is nothing you can do now, but take care of yourself.

i really hope this would help you in some way.

lisa-a wrote:
sorry if i made a few mistakes but i wasnt rely thinking prop wen i wrote it but u must of been able 2 understand it 2say anythink bout it

trehe is no need to apogilzoe it denos’t mttear how you wtrie as lnog as pepole udnrsetnad,

and we do :)

I know we’re only on your computer screen, but is there anything also we can do other than feel sorry for you?

how old are you?

are there any relatives around you?
father?

why what happened?

lisa-a, I will spare you the gory details of my parents. I will tell you a secret though, I tried to kill myself and I almost got it right. My brother and I moved in and out of emotional closeness but it had nothing to do with him. In fact I would see him to this day. Not your fault and being a kid, what could you do? Hey now…:)

Its hard to tell when someone makes that choice. He was understandably depressed. I was told a story once about the same situation… All down and out, then one day seemed ok, made breakfast for everyone, ran some errands, cleaned the house up a bit…. then… you get the picture..
Its not your fault.

might help : a scene from a film.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=92D15q…

hon, not your fault.

maybe it is time that you made peace with your dad.
you need each other’s support.
and your sister too…

might not be that simple grbhp. Let her try but really IT IS NOT HER FAULT.

what i am saying is, that it is irrelevant to dig in it,
you only sink deeper the more you think about it.

holy wow, NOOOOOOOOO.

Dr. Foreman wrote:
god sakes, sorry for you loss and everything, but its a little difficult to feel bad when the post isnt even posted in an understandable form of english

One day this will happen to you, and when your eyes are full of tears and you can hardly write, then I hope someone comes by and criticizes you for being an idiot. It’s obvious that she is in distress, where’s your compassion………man…bro….idiot!

It is called emotional intelligence. Meet Jr. just let them work it out.

yeah, you two are great, but fighting her was NOT cool dude. She needs care not cruelty. UK English is not the same as US and UK slang is not the same. Hey wonderfuls just dial it down a bit.

Lisa, I too had a brother who decided one day to end it all. My other older brother found him in the garage, hung. We all wished that we could have seen this coming, and for sure we would have done something. If only we can predict the future, for at least a couple of days in advance, then we can have more control over what happens. But we can’t. You can live your life blaming yourself, or you can live your life knowing and excepting you had no control over this. Let your mom handle this now because he is with her. You need to be strong, and continue the walk of life with your head held high and with hopes of better things to come.

you go girl :) All of my love
me

Honey, and I am VERY serious about this. Are you suicidal?

Hey relax, I tried to kill myself once too. It was horrid but I lived, rather well actually. Hon. you brother wants this for you too.

Baby carry his legacy in your heart and live :) I think the would would lesser with out you. Hang on, I asked others to help too.

as long as you live there is always a chance for better days to come.
death gives no redemption, only more pain. you know that.

would = world
I carried a locket of someone once. Can you try that? talk to me sweetie.

Honey dropping a web group is ok. death is not.

SO are you going to live or must I carry you in my heart only? I KNOW you want to live. You are just hurt.

lisa-a wrote:
I dont think i can live anymore i realy cant take anymore iv had enough

a few months ago i was at it too… couldn’t take it anymore, not a second more…
there are other ways…
like.. playing the computer… doing something pointless and addictive…
that literally makes your head go numb, and your thoughts too.
its not much of a cure, but it holds you on

others might suggest meds… i just despise chemicals…
but it can help, and you’ll see, time will do its magic.
you will come out strong and wise.
and help others that will be where you are today,
stand up to life and make all this mean something, and make a difference for the good.

lisa-a wrote:
I dont think i can live anymore i realy cant take anymore iv had enough

Hello Lisa,
I am so sorry that this has happened to you, however I plead to you on behalf of help.com, the world, myself and all of your friends and family not to do this, we need you, your brother killed himself for a reason, and you were not able to stop him, we are millions of miles away, but when a person is on here, and kills themselves we feel we should have known, we should have done something when in the reality is we couldn’t have done anything, we only know if a person needs help if the ask for it.

Yours Sincerely,
David

lisa-a wrote:
I cant do this anymore iv got nothing 2live 4 wen my mum died i knew i had 2 b stong 4 my brother cuz i needed him nd he needed me cuz we only had each other nd i prom id look after him but i didnt i cudnt even do that so now hes dead as well so now i dont need 2 be strong Cuz no one needs me iv got no one nothing i just cant do this anymore i dont wanna b here anymore

Look, I understand the pain you are in, but your brother and your mother would have wanted you to enjoy life.

lisa-a wrote:
but i dont wanna Enjoy life with out them im sorry

Did you get my shouts, Lisa?

Good, I am happy.

YAY!

lisa-a wrote:
Hi im jo lisa m8 just wanted 2 thank u 4 helping my m8 she didnt kill herself but she did realy hurt herself she wanted 2 die but just cudnt do it she wont be around 4 a bit So i just wanted 2 let u know she okish kinda nd wanted 2 say thank u

Please try to spell your words better, so I can better understand what you are saying. Please try. Are you saying you are 8 years old, and you mother didn’t die? Please answer back.

That is Jo, lisa is her m8 means mate, and Lisa didn’t kill herself

lisa-a wrote:
Hi im jo lisa m8 just wanted 2 thank u 4 helping my m8 she didnt kill herself but she did realy hurt herself she wanted 2 die but just cudnt do it she wont be around 4 a bit So i just wanted 2 let u know she okish kinda nd wanted 2 say thank u

Luck of the Irish wrote:
That is Jo, lisa is her m8 means mate, and Lisa didn’t kill herself

lisa-a wrote:
Hi im jo lisa m8 just wanted 2 thank u 4 helping my m8 she didnt kill herself but she did realy hurt herself she wanted 2 die but just cudnt do it she wont be around 4 a bit So i just wanted 2 let u know she okish kinda nd wanted 2 say thank u

I got it. Thanks.

HOLY GOD NOOOOOOOOOOOO!

is this a joke?

I hope this is not a joke because if it is it’s not funny. Show us proof. I want to see proof.

Show us obituary notice, or something like that. I can’t believe that.

oh god I BELIEVE you I merely WISH it was a joke. **** it. She is gone? for real? NOOOOOOO!

When I go to the Oban ritual. I will light a flaming candle in the water for her. I miss her already :(

Why wasn’t anyone watching her? You said she hurt herself bad, so what happened? I want to know what happened? This is unbelieveable. You have to admit it. You have to understand where I’m coming from. Please tell more.

yes!!!!!!!!!. we freaking sad and worried! Go Jr.