mom help: I want to tell my mom that she is very over protective and is very controlling. - Help.com

maybe try distilling how you feel into words on paper and move on from there? whatever happens, as pissed off as you may get, try to keep a cool head and keep the convo civilized…this just my input from the mistakes i made while i had this conversation…or what rapidly devolved into a shouting match anyway…with my parents. when you figure out how you feel, and also give yourself a chance to see things from your mom’s perspectives, it’ll be much easier to construct a reasoned argument that’ll help you get the freedom you want. you might initially have to strike a compromise that’ll still restrict you considerably, but freedom isn’t earned all at once…start out with the small stuff and gradually just try going ahead with the bigger stuff.

hint, that your friends have alot more freedom and your being left out.

dont guilt trip her as such, just give her something to think about

worked with my mum :P

How are you not able to hang out with your friends unless they come over to your house? Seriously, just do it. Tell her you are going to see a friend and that is that. The most she will do is get you in trouble/bicker at you, maybe ground you, whatever. But do it despite that. When you show her that you are doing nothing wrong and that nothing she does will stop you from doing what you want (and not to mention what is perfectly OK) then hopefully she will back off. Maybe not inititally, but eventually. If you are doing nothing wrong she has no right to control you like that!

I hate controlling parents.

Yepp. Guilt trip here. But don’t use the “but all my other friends” line, because she’ll just throw “well I dont care what all the other kids do, you’re my daughter” line at you and it will automatically trump your line.

Just make her feel guilty for holding you back from life. You have to grow up and think for yourself sometime. Highschool is when it starts for most