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I could use some help.

I have been married for nearly 9 years, and it has been far from perfect. She and I have always had our problems, but through it all, I have always loved her with everything that I had. We married young, I was 18 and she was 20. Last year, she had an affair. It nearly killed me. On top of the affair, I was in Kuwait, working as a contractor to support her and our children. I tried to forgive her, but she continued to say that she no longer loves me but wants the chance to see if she could again. I gave her that chance. But now, I can’t take the way that she treats me, and so I decided that we should divorce. The problem is, I still love her, I am now in Iraq, and it is slowly killing me. I don’t know how to cope. I don’t know what to do. I really don’t have anyone, she was all I wanted and had. Now, I am alone. How do you cope with this? I know that it is the best thing for both of us, but it’s so difficult. Though I would never hurt myself, my children are too important for that, I don’t know how to cope. Please help.

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areacode705l offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
Friendship, ME, US | 5 months ago (10 minutes after post)

i think that you got to slowly move on, and its gonna be hard it will be so hard, but honestly you need too,find someone else.

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TheWarmth offline Verified User (9 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (7 hours, 35 minutes after post)

I will try to give some advice from what i am reading, this sounds like a really rough time and i send my best wishes to you. Get really in to hobbies that you like and exercise, maybe go over things with your ex to see how you can sort things out with the kids. THE KIDS NEED YOU, THEY LOVE AND NEED THERE DAD. Listen to music that will pick you up, talk to your friends and family, be strong be cool you can get through this.

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