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Why do I get upset/mad about every little thing?
Even when I try to be happy and positive…it all falls apart again. I have to find something to get all worked up about it seems. Any suggestions for breaking out of all this? Thanks!
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are u bieng outwardly angry and getting off your chest??
Are you a woman by any chance?
When you get in a mood, try not to think about it. try instead to think about the next person you speak to - do you really want to hurt them? if not keep your mouth shut!
maybe because you are really pissed off about a big thing and that is creating a huge underlying frustration
like for me i’ve noticed i’m quite sure that i wont be happy unless i get to have kids and as i’m 39 and my husband left i have a huge frustration and i feel like i’ve got to move forward fast so whenever anything goes wrong i freak out, even liking missing a bus this morning…
Oh well then that’s okay. ;)
I used to be like you, a few years ago (hormonal teenager phase)
I have a tendancy to be very emtoional/angry especially when I feel strongly about something. I mean I don’t shout and scream but I do get in a huff.
Best way to get over it is to laugh at yourself and try to find the humour in it. When you get angry or upset at someone or something, blow your steam off, let the anger out, and then laugh about it. Eventually the little things you used to get so worked up over seem just silly. :)
i have the same problem sometimes
i usally drink and it makes it better.
no jokes… (kinda) my advice would be to scream into a pillow if your a screamer. or close your eyes and take a deep breath if your a cryer. i no thats cliche advice but it really works. smile even if you dont feel like it because it sends happy signals to your brain.
Are you a control-freak i.e. anal rententive? These kind of people get bent outta shape if the slightest thing doesn’t go there way, or if things don’t come out the way you apprehended.
I used to be this way, but I’ve gotten a lot better about it. People will automatically sense your negativity if you act this way, they’ll avoid you and won’t deal with you in the future.
i tend to cry when i’m angry, and i also get worked up about a lot of ****…more than i need to i’m sure! i can laugh about it after the fact, but in the moment it makes me feel really bad and incompetent. even w/ the bf; i only get to see him once a week and even then i’m always mad about something!! it’s so frustrating not being able to enjoy that time but he always seems to be doing something wrong.
what can i say…i mean the reason i m here is bcoz i want the answer to th same question..why do little things upset me….but after reading all the replies frm ur frnds ….i realized life is too short to waste…so i m going to try my best to deal with those horrid situations…….hope u do well too
i have the same problem… i keep losing friends cus of it, please… someone just help me
when i am angry i am just moody and if anyone has a sly comment i just black out in like a little trance if you will and just punch them and punch them then all of a sudden i will like snap out and find out that ivs hurt someone and im like **** why did i hit you your my best mate :( i need proppa help :(
just calm down i get really mad but i dont punch
No matter what it is i always seem to make everything negative. My boyfriend who also has problems with anger, always tells me that i get bent out of shape over the littlest things. I just cant stop. He is eventually going to leave me. I just know it. Sooner or later, maybe even today because I am crazy. I keep crying, thinking about why I am the way I am. it sucks. I want to be happy. I have so much bottled up and I never let it out the right way. I used to be so happy with my boyfriend and he used to be so happy with me. Now we never think about how happy we used to be. Instead all we do is argue and say awful things to eachother. We definitely have a love hate relationship. It is so unhealthy. I know we are meant to be and I know that sounds weird. It’s just gettting over the anger we have developed over time and most of it is not even about our relationship; it is everything that has affected us over time in life and now we are putting those harsh feelings on eachother. Most of my feelings are developed from being lied to as a kid and let down constantly. I hate when people talk about me behind my back. It hurts so much and makes me angry. I was picked on most of life and it has haunted me as an adult. Now I am so defenses about everything. I can trust myself or anyone else. I am seeing a therapist and on meds but they don’t seem to help. I wonder if I am bi-polar or have adhd symptoms. Has anyone else been through this and can help me?
I’ve been having the same prob… Either with my parents, my best friend, or someone who “Supose” to be my friend :( I seem to worrie alot when I’m by myself, and its usually worse at nite. I get lonely, and sometimes even depressed. for the MOST part… I feel like I’m in this bubble looking at my life, and watching it go in ruins :( I also feel like I missed some years of my life. I’m only 22, but I can say that I’ve seen better days, and there is times where I wish I can start all over again from the beginning! I just wanna be happy, stress-free, and not care what other ppl say or think about me!!!
I have major anger problems, when someone says something negative about me/to me I just get worked up to the point where I’m out of control. I say ALOT of stupid things when I’m mad (sometimes bringing up unrelated issues :S) and when I finally calm down I feel embarassed…these tantrums only last like 5-10 minutes most of the time, I guess its just me repressing bad thoughts. Oh well, reading these replies made me feel a little better thanks guys.
I have the same problem and i dont know what to do. i can be happy one second and then my boyfriend will say something that i turn around in my head and make it seem bad so i end up flipping out and make myself upset. i just want to be happy but i dont know how to do that fully anymore its so upsetting. i feel like i am constanly arguing and fighting with my family and boyfriend but i hold it back when it comes to my friends. i over-react and get embarressed but the other part of me wonders if i am over-reacting or if my boyfriends just making me feel like i am. :,( im stuck and i dont know what to do. everyday is a constant struggle.
i can relate to everything i read on this page
i need someone too acually make sense on what there saying andsome helpful advice i have looked for people to maybehelp but cant find anybody on the internet and i cant pay for a shrink to lissten to my problems im a full timefather and i cant deal with my spouse anymore i need help advise or someone that acually relate to my problems can someone help please
My problems have been going on since I was thirteen. I’m nineteen now, it seems like some things have gotten a little better but not completely. For some reason I feel like I cant trust anybody. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and I still feel that I can’t trust him. Sometimes when he says things , I find a way to turn them around and I get really upset about them. I can go from being really happy, to being upset and crying, thinking about suicide then to being furious in matters of minutes. Then after I freak out, I feel helpless and really bad for it and try to apologize. I don’t like when things go my way, that makes me freak out bad. its just gotten to the point to where I don’t know what to do or who to turn to because I feel like everyone thinks I’m using the excuse “I have some kind of problem” to make them forgive me. I just don’t know what to do anymore.
Right now I am feeling out of my mind,and it is the same thing,I play stuff over and over in my mind so much,I dont know if it is my own mind creating an issue,or if I really have a valid reason to be mad or upset. My feelings get hurt,so I act out in a way to yell and scream and I get so angry,then once I have really ticked my boyfriend off to the point where he wont even speak to me,then I realize I have probably over-reacted,and I cry and apologize. I love my boyfriend dearly,but I also feel like I am chasing him away and cant even control myself. When I tell him that I cant control my self,and that I have issues,he also believes it is an excuse for my behavior. I feel like I am going out of my mind,and I am going to lose someone I really love over it,he wont even speak to me now as I write this. I do have a history of problems,I have extreme anxiety,OCD,but more recently,I have also been looking into the idea of ADHD,it seems to be a fit of all of the seperate symptoms that I have had for years. It also describes a problem with controlling your emotions,which I think most of us all seem to have. I have a Dr appointment coming up soon,and I am going to have her look into that for sure. I,like you all,would like to know why I have these horrible emotional issues,why I feel they way I do,and why I cant control it.
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