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want a christian answer, a ghetto one, or one more in between? I’ll give you my opinion to anyone but only one answer will have any true worth.

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Paul, in the book of Romans talks of the spiritual warfare within us, due to the carnal man constantly being at war with the spiritual man. Romans 7:14-20 talks about the way Paul wanted to to good but sometimes seemingly couldn’t, but he confessed that it wasn’t he that was doing it but the sin in him. It’s this portion of scripture that’s so often misunderstood to give credit to the idea that ‘the devil made me do it’. This wasn’t Paul meaning. The battle being fought is one much closer to home. Reading the entire book of Romans is the only way to fully unravel the mystery. You should read it. Then remember that while apart from Christ we can do nothing…through Him we can do all things.

so why can I not say No, i fear that is my worst undoing in all my life

Inability of saing NO mostly results from the feeling you could harm the people who asks you for favour, often attended by the the fear of “friendship” loss. The answer for this problem is: “It is your right, and nobody can judge you for this. If he do, you don’t need his goodwill.”

Whatever the problem is you need to let it be though of through God’s eyes, not your own. We are always going to have clouded judgment about not only ourselves, but our situations as well. No one wants to think of themselves as an *******. Problem is that untill we can admit the weakest things about ourselves, then He, Christ; is powerless to do anything. We first have to give true, honest evaluation to the issue, looking at it through God’s perspective nd not our own, admit our falts, and focus more on changing those faluts then the storm of torment and confusion that insues every time we try to right things our own way, on our own terms.

Problem is you should never have to fear the loss of a friendship over any choices or differences of opinions. Friend..real friends give their lives for their friends but nothing in that implies victimizing ourselves.

I feel that I am lost and I am unsure what path is mine anymore-all I have ever done was try to please others so much so that I don’t really know what pleases me or even who me really is anymore.

Christ says that the giving of ourselves to others is the greatest sacrifice, so figure…you can either do for Him, withHim in mind….or change your ways, be conformed to the world and become like them….filled with self preservation at all cost…even those around you. It’s not easie bein’ cheezy…lol…I can’t speak for others but I have chosen to rather die hurt and alone cause I gave all I had and never recieved a **** thing here, then to know I made my day a little easier by avoiding one person, one time, knowing that what I do to my fellow man, I do unto Him. See, for me its Christ…a different view then most but still christ and His messege is clear and undisputed in that. Matthew 25:31-46

Man, you don’t even know how I sympathize with you. There were times, when I was absolutely the same. If you can survive this period, you will probably realize that you are not the bottomless storehouse of energy and if you’re going to continue this way, there will stay nothing to give and you’ll become just worthless target of ridicule… sad, but true. It needs just a bit of training to master this ability.

Can a person such as I be saved?

anyone ‘can’ be saved. The Choice belongs to us to choose let Him save us

what makes one worthy of being saved and how do we know when we truly are saved, how do we know we have not just convinced ourselves of this, how do we decifer what is true and what is just hope, when it comes to such things there is no room for error, no room for misguided error is there?
I want to know and feel the truth, the spirit and the love, so I may know nothing less than his grace and mercy above all.
How will I know he has truly and can truly forgive me please, how do I know for sure?

You have to read his word for yourself…read it till its apart of you..till it’s words drip from your heart and lips like sweet honey…then…open your eyes to the big picture of just who Christ really is to you and your place in His Kingdom. If you can reach that plateau of faith…then never cease to seek for the greater truths to all of life’s mysteries and how they play into His great and ultimate plan. Realize that no matter what…no matter what..you are always a vessel to the Lord. The bible teaches that He rose Pharaoh up for his purpose. If your heart truly is in such a selfless place, and that is truly the cause for most of your torment…then realize that he who suffers here shall rejoice in Heaven.