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Hi everybody,

i need advice from everyone, i keep falling for every good looking woman i meet, i invest so much of myself, even when i know it’s a bad idea, then i become the great “friend”, which i would really like if i wasn’t having feelings for her, i need a way to turn off my emotions and just be happy with what i have, i have lost two great friendships within the last 6 months like this, now i am alone and lonely again,

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

Maybe you should try an accept who you are before you try to fix how you react to an attractive person.
Friendship in many senses is so much better than a relationship, a friend will be there for you through thick and thin yet a relationship once over has no return.

What is do you think that makes you want more from someone?

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

My advice:
Fall for the not-so-great looking ones. ;)

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

i mean the last two close friends i had were women that i started to have feelings for during the course of the friendship, and they didn’t, the last girl in particular really understood me and was a fantastic friend, and the sort of friend that i want to keep around forever, but then my feelings sneak up on me and i started to fall for her, i have been hurt too many times over the years and really don’t believe i can have a good relationship, so now i just want that close friendship that i had found without my heart getting involved, and becoming jealous when they meet other people,

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (49 minutes after post)

“My advice: Get some guy friends ASAP.”

Completely agree. Your then showing you can be a great friend without it having to be with a potential date! You show your good qualities without coming across as needy. Perfect!

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (52 minutes after post)

I completely disagree with the idea that you can’t be friends with women. Sure you can. You *can* be friends with anyone. Sure, it depends on a whole lot of factors, but the possibility of being friends always exists there.

‘owever, I DO agree with the idea of getting some male friends. At least that way you can counter-act this loneliness you’ve been having. :)

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