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Hey, long distance relationship and we haven’t met, but we’ve known each other for 3 years.

We know each other so well and trust and so much more.. Don’t tell me bad things if u can help it…
This is my problem…75% of the time after we say goodnight to each other I get depressed. This depression (or feeling very low) passes with a couple hours most of the time if i distract myself. I just hate that I get depressed almost every time she says bye…

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Charlottetown, PE, CA | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

yes, but not any time soon…like we plan on it.

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Hey, long distance relationship and we haven’t met, but we’ve known each other for 3 years. We know each other so well and trust and so much more.. Don’t tell me bad things if u can help it…
This is my problem…75% of the time we say goodnight to each other I get depressed. This depression (or feeling very low) passes with a couple hours most of the time if i distract myself. I just hate that I get depressed almost every time she says bye…

Help me with: I just broke up with someone that I’m in-love with.
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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Long distance never works unless there is the intention to meet and the belief it can be done. All you have to do is get used to her saying goodbye. You should be so happy that you had good conversations and be looking forward to the next instead of getting bummed out like it never even happened at all. In fact the girl i love far away whom i havent spoken to in months(look in my posts someone i need a lot of help to help her and also dont want to be put down) :( …. well anyways when i always talked to her if it was late and she was tired i would gladly tell her to go to bed because i wanted her to get her rest and i was happy for doing so. I think I have told you before that you seem to have a bit of a love addiction and that would need to be taken care of for a healthier relationship for the two of you. Good luck :]

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Charlottetown, PE, CA | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (15 hours, 13 minutes after post)

Umm…yeah i tell her to go to bed all the time when she says she’s tired and I’m okay. It’s just when she is like “I’m going to bed” is when I get down…and yeah I’m that guy lol.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (5 days, 1 hour after post)

Well, having gone through a long distance relationship myself, it’s just one of those things I think. Just try to do the whole thing about reminding yourself that good night tonight isn’t good night for forever. Besides, you can’t say good morning without saying good night. ;-) That and as they say, distance makes the heart grow fonder, everybody needs space. Not that I’m trying to imply that you are smothering at all. I’m just saying, try to take a step back and take some deep breaths about the whole thing when you feel that whole depression thing coming on.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (5 days, 1 hour after post)

Yeah I know how that feels… a sudden “goodnight” then leaving suddenly without saying goodnight yourself can feel saddening.

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