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How long have you been cutting?

Have you gotten treatment for this, Spazzy?

I know what u r going through I started in 7nth grade quit for 2yrs started again this yr in 10nth grade was in remission for 6 monthes then started 2 weeks ago u have to be strong i know how hard it is!

You don’t have to apologize to us, I think we all basically understand. I think what you need to do is apologize to yourself, and forgive yourself. Have you spoken to anyone else about your problem?

i have been trying to quit to. Today in a craft store I think I probably stared at the exact-o knifes for like 10 minutes. Stay Strong! Were all with you! We love you!

SpazzySpizzy wrote:
no i havent gotten treatment even though i know i should.i think im too scared.ive quit so many times only to go right back to it.i hate myself because cutting and giving up seem to be the only things im good at.

Maybe “treatment” isn’t necesary, but you need to talk to a professional about this, whether it be a school counselor or therapist. Or just start by talking to a family member. It will be hard to start but it’s the only way you can recover and break this problem you have

Talking to a professional is treatment, Nellie.

Anyway, I’m going to refer to something I wrote on a similar post a while back: You can not QUIT cutting. It’s not something you quit. That doesn’t mean you can’t abstain and keep yourself away from it, but there are larger things at work. Let me explain:

Everyone’s brains are set up to deal with problems. Cutting is your brain’s way of coping with these problems. It’s not the best way, we know that, but it’s how your brain is set up to handle things RIGHT NOW. If you try to “quit” cutting, you’ll leave your brain with no way to cope. And, as those of you who’ve relapsed have discovered, your brain MUST find a way to cope somehow. I don’t know what would happen if your brain didn’t find a way to cope, but for the sake of argument, just picture lots of things exploding.

So there we have it - your brain currently understands two things in life 1.) cut 2.) explode. Either way, not good. So, in order to help your brain along, you literally have to teach it other ways to deal with problems. You have to teach it other methods of coping and make sure it knows to use those first. Then when problems arise, you won’t NEED or WANT to cut. And THAT is how one stops - it stops itself, you see?

The best way to address this is through therapy with a professional that you understand and trust. Whatever issues underly your cutting - abuse, trauma, whatever - those need to be brought out in a healthy way. Just like an infection, if they aren’t addressed, they will keep right on bothering you and you’ll be right back where you started from. But you can definitely change your life if you want to!

SpazzySpizzy wrote:
ive talked to a few friends about it.most of them think i quit a long time ago though.

that’s good that you even did that! I think you should go back to your friends and tell them that you still have this problem. My friend was a cutter and we helped her through it the first time. She promised she wouldn’t do it again, but once she started up again she wouldn’t talk to us because she was ashamed. We had to find out by ourselves and give her an intervention. If they are truly your friends, they’ll understand and help you through this, because I’m sure they know you better than most people. However, I’m still going to stress the importance of talking to a therapist, or even someone on the suicide hotline (above). You might not think you need to talk about it with someone like that, but they have a lot of experience and understand what you’re going through. You’d be surprised how much feeling comes out once you just start talking to them.

☞T☜ wrote:
Talking to a professional is treatment, Nellie.

Well I was referring more to medication

Oh SpazzySpizzy, do not be ashamed. Please never forget, you don’t have to go through this alone. Every minute is a chance to start a new beginning. I wish I could help you more. If I was with you, I’d say let’s go for a run. We’ll run until our legs give in. Then we’ll have cupcakes!

It’s settled then, we’re having cupcakes! Don’t ever be afraid to confide in me. I would never judge you and I mean that. Do you have a favorite comedian?

I used to often, and sometimes still do, feel the unexpected onset of negative thoughts and feelings. I feel like I have no control over them. I call these episodes/negative emotions “dementors” because they suck the happy out of me. One day I decided I wasn’t going to let it take over my life. I was going to fight it. So I started exercising. I’d do crunches until I couldn’t do anymore and then I’d watch my favorite stand-up comedian, Louis ****. Find fresh, hilarious comedy. Laugh your heart out. Then read quotes on hope, strength, and courage from thinkexist.com and articles on personal growth from lifeoptimizer.org.