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my arrogance is pushing my friends away and i want to change.

the problem is i don’t know how.

i only discovered this horrible trait of mine a few months ago when my closest friends called me ‘cold’ and tried to relate it to my mothers death when i was young. i had no idea i was perceived this way and was quite shocked to hear it. after months of worrying and anxiety i’ve come to terms with it a bit more. i always thought people viewed me the same way i thought of myself. which is pretty ignorant.

the problem i have is that i struggle to talk about things which expose me to critiscm and as such am finding it hard to stop this behaviour. im not even sure if i can change my character, but i really hope so. i also fear that it may prevent me from making any further friendships. if anyone has some tips on what to do, or if you have had the same problem please respond.

thanks in advance.

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needssomehelp offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (21 minutes after post)

try just listening to them more instead of criticising. try agreeing and appearing friendly to them. just do it and try…

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Fritwell, K2, GB | 5 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

Listening to critisism of ourselves helps us to change, maybe think a little about what they are saying, if you agree ask them how they think you can change if you don’t agree let them know why you don’t and that you thought the critisim was slightly unfair,

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