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me!

Someone told me, “Is there any chance you can be more annoying?”

And here I am doing my best.

of course.

How am I doing?

littlenick wrote:
How am I doing?

you can do better than that…
try spamming with short sentences, invitations of one user at a time
edit the post a couple of times, look for suicide post and tell them their grammar sucks …
write long long posts with no commas dots or new lines.

well… don’t you have a list about it? i’m sure you do ;)

Yep

talianstallion2 wrote:
littlenick, you may be the only person on here that isn’t full of sh*t. i applaud you

Is that a compliment? I’m not sure. What do you guys think?

Of course… i didnt join this site for just no reason… i was troubled and havent left since?

I’ve been helped here. I know I’ve helped others, here.

talianstallion2 wrote:

~willard~ wrote:
Of course… i didnt join this site for just no reason… i was troubled and havent left since?

so you are still troubled? and if so then the advise didn’t help or you would have no need to come back

Not necessarily. You don’t have to have problems to keep coming here, you just keep coming to help everyone else on this site. If people left as soon as everything was fixed with them there would be nobody here to give advice.

talianstallion2 wrote:

Xeno Dragon wrote:
I’ve been helped here. I know I’ve helped others, here.

that is a lie. no could take you seriously with a name like that

Surprisingly, with 220 posts and 21,042 replies, I’ve been the most consistent and prolific Regular Ancient on the site for the past 2 years and 2 months. Not to mention one of the most popular until I chose to get rid of that distinction.

talianstallion2 wrote:

Xeno Dragon wrote:
I’ve been helped here. I know I’ve helped others, here.

that is a lie. no could take you seriously with a name like that

And Talianstallion2 is much better. Haha. Seriously.
People are helped here all the time. I have been as well. You hust have to accept the help you get.

Arkia Valkair wrote:
Not necessarily. You don’t have to have problems to keep coming here, you just keep coming to help everyone else on this site. If people left as soon as everything was fixed with them there would be nobody here to give advice.

on the other hand, people always have troubles of some sort.
plus, helping others is a good medicine for one’s own pain too.

talianstallion2 wrote:
but that is my point. no one seems to be “helping” on this site. it just is a never ending bashing of the person that posted originally or of the person above them.

not really,
true, problems are not solved overnight
and there is no sudden inspiration that fixes everything
but threw consulting and looking at things from a different angle, and being given advices from experienced, good people,
after a while it helps you find the right direction to walk at,
which eventually turns out for the good.

Xeno Dragon wrote:
Surprisingly, with 220 posts and 21,042 replies, I’ve been the most consistent and prolific Regular Ancient on the site for the past 2 years and 2 months. Not to mention one of the most popular until I chose to get rid of that distinction.

and the most modest, too ;P

er, if you think it is so contemptuous then probably you are the fool to still be here

talianstallion2 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
er, if you think it is so contemptuous then probably you are the fool to still be here

someone feels the need to flaunt the high vocabulary score on the SAT’s. unfortunately it was used improperly in this case. what you are trying to say is that i think the site is dismissive in the matter that i don’feel it works. not that i am content with the way it is as you have stated. just cause u talk big don’t mean you are big

er, con·temp·tu·ous [ kən témpchoo əss ]

adjective

Definition:

showing or feeling contempt: feeling, expressing, or demonstrating a strong dislike or utter lack of respect for somebody or something

Yes i got help from Helpers. Words and Ideas for Lyrics.Become a better two Finger Typist.Oh to many things to mention.Changed my Name from Slimline to Barbyman.Got older.Getting abused every so often,but that is what it is Life..Enjoy it….

that’s vocabulary-ist

talianstallion2 wrote:

Xeno Dragon wrote:

talianstallion2 wrote:

Xeno Dragon wrote:
I’ve been helped here. I know I’ve helped others, here.

that is a lie. no could take you seriously with a name like that

Surprisingly, with 220 posts and 21,042 replies, I’ve been the most consistent and prolific Regular Ancient on the site for the past 2 years and 2 months. Not to mention one of the most popular until I chose to get rid of that distinction.

wow. that is the most nerdish thing i have ever heard. you have made my day in a way that no person in the real world could have. YOU HAVE TRULY HELPED ME!!!

Yeah, I also write comic books, am in school for IT, and I play WoW. I’m a nerd, and proud of it, b*tch.
Feel free to take these small parts of my life, use them to paint an incorrect picture of me, and use that to make yourself feel better about your own pathetic existence. There’s more to me than you could understand.

And seriously. “most nerdish”? Come on, at least TRY to sound like you have a few neurons firing around your skull, mmkay?

grbghp wrote:

Xeno Dragon wrote:
Surprisingly, with 220 posts and 21,042 replies, I’ve been the most consistent and prolific Regular Ancient on the site for the past 2 years and 2 months. Not to mention one of the most popular until I chose to get rid of that distinction.

and the most modest, too ;P

Hehe. Truth is truth.

Xeno Dragon wrote:
and I play WoW.

:( I hate that game! It stole my little brother. :(

~CaitherrA~ wrote:

Xeno Dragon wrote:
and I play WoW.

:( I hate that game! It stole my little brother. :(

Play it. All will be assimilated.

I played it. :P I could go all nerd-style and tell you what I had, but I’d rather not. -_- I will say that I gave my character to my brother for his b-day and he was stoked though. Haha.

Ah, well. At lest you tried.

That game is addicting. :(
Now my brother sleeps everyday until 3:30 in the afternoon and never sees the light of day…

Ahhh… the good life.

That’s a terrible life! No friends, pale skin, irregular sleeping patterns, intelligence obviously diminishing, development of a fear of real people… How is that good whatsoever???

No friends, says who?
Pale skin, vampires are sexy.
Irregular sleeping patterns, he’s on the right schedule in Malaysia.
Intelligence obviously diminishing… okay, that one makes no sense at all. Maybe he has brain worms. Video games stimulate your mind, they don’t let it atrophy.
Social anxiety… no. Just no. That has nothing to do with gaming. It’s like saying basketball players develop a fear of being alone by being around people so much.

Try again. ^_^

No friends- (As in REAL friends, not the names in your friends list) So addicted to the game that he would rather play that than go to the pool, or to his friends house. His friends stop liking him.
He lives in America, not Malaysia.
He can’t even do basic math anymore. He gets me to help him spell. He even asked me how to spell some ridiculously easy word(I’ve got short-term memory, I can’t remember exactly what it was) the other day.
When his life schedule consists of: WoW, eat, drink soda, WoW, sleep, WoW, sleep, drink soda, WoW, sleep, eat; then you’ve definitely got a problem. He is afraid to be around people. What else would that come from? -_-

How do you know he had no friends in real life? I have friends from all the places I’ve lived in the past, and I can’t see them often. They play, and I play. We talk online and on the phone. Are they not real, simply because they don’t live in my town?

Who says the pool is so great? Swimming in a giant public toilet filled with poisonous chlorine and getting sunburn doesn’t sound like a good time to me.

Well, he’s sleeping on a REGULAR schedule, is my point. You said he wakes up at the same time every day. He’s just nocturnal is all. Who says we have to be up in the daytime?

The memory thing is not game-related. That’s a severe problem that no pastime could cause. Either that, or he’s smoking like a pound of weed every day.

So he plays a lot and has bad eating habits. That’s not a good thing, but if that’s his choice, that’s his choice.

If he’s afraid, truly afraid, to be around people, then that is a medical problem, not a gaming problem. It’s not like a video game can reach out through your screen and do some kind of voodoo magic, changing the chemical construction of your brain, apparently severe enough to turn you into a gibbering, agoraphobic moron. You’re assigning to the game what is likely caused by something more serious. It’s just a game. Stop blaming it for every little thing you don’t like about him, and get him some help.

I know because the only time he is on the phone is with our cousin, who plays just as much as him. He’s lost contact with old friends, I know because I still have contact and they say they haven’t heard anything about him in ages. A ‘real’ friend is somebody that you have actually seen in real life.

Pool was an example. He doesn’t want to leave the computer for any reason.

He sleeps for 12 hours of the day, and plays WoW the other 12. I didn’t say anything about being up in the daytime, but that is definitely not healthy.

I’m the one with the memory problem, and why does everybody say that it’s severe? -_-

Not afraid as in scared, he has just become shy, where he used to be a bully. He’s leaves the crowds of people to go talk about WoW. It’s an unhealthy and disgusting addiction.

Meh. Maybe he’s just antisocial. It happens.

The world is scary. If I didn’t have a reason to, I probably wouldn’t leave the computer, either. Far better to be here than risk getting shot or mugged or carjacked.

Yeah, you did. You said he never sees the sun. But okay. A lot of people sleep for a long time. This happens when you over sleep excessively. Your body adjusts, and you sleep longer and longer. It works both ways, look at the businessmen and celebrities who wake up as early as possible every morning, and then stay out all night. It’s not average, but it’s not a huge problem.

I’d think that turning a bully shy is a good thing, if it were the game doing it. But, once again, it’s not. He just has an interest that he’d rather talk about. I’m not antisocial, but I’ve never liked large groups. They’re just not my thing.

As for “an unhealthy and disgusting addiction”… well, depending on his habits, he may be unhealthy. But that’s not the game’s fault. It may be a habit, but it’s not an addiction, really. And even if it is… what are you doing to stop it? It’s not like he’s addicted to heroin, and forcing him to stop or cut back is going to cause massive physical or psychological trauma.

And how is it disgusting?

He wasn’t like this before the game, since we got it he plays more and more. He even got his own laptop to play it…

But come on, he isn’t living. He might as well be built into the game.

He doesn’t see the sun means when he is awake, he doesn’t go outside.

I don’t like large groups either. But I’m talking about groups. Cliques. One on one conversation. Family discussion. He’s incapable of it nowadays.

He’s a big kid. Bully material, like I mentioned before. He used to be tough, but lately when he tries to hit me(He has a VERY short temper) I can easily stop and over power him completely. It never was like that. He hasn’t been getting the exercise he once had because he only plays the game. So. Addictive. I’ve done everything I can. He won’t listen to me, and since my dad left, we’ve had no proper discipline in our house. My mom won’t do a thing.

It’s disgusting because he is the prime example of every comic, tv show, and such that are making fun of WoW players. He tries to get my mom to do everything for him. It’s disgusting to watch his life decline. I feel so guilty and powerless at the same time. :(

Does he work?

Where is he getting money?

He’s… 12.
… Or 13, I forget. My point stands strong though. I don’t even have a job yet. -_-

Money for what?
He lives with the rest of my family in our house, and has no need for money. Haha.

Wait. WAIT. He’s a preteen, and you’re whining about him changing? You’re saying he’s acting differently and that all he can do is play videogames? HE’S A PRETEEN BOY! What do you think they do?

Hot many preteens get weaker as they hit puberty. -_- The rest is pretty normal, I know, but something tells me the game is making it worse. Could be over-reacting, I realize, it’s just a feeling I get in my gut.
And it’s not videogameS it’s videogame. Only one, he doesn’t have the time for any others.

Gah! I’ve been doing that all day! Supposed to be a question mark on the first sentence.

~CaitherrA~ wrote:
Hot many preteens get weaker as they hit puberty?

Yay.

Over. Re. Act. Ing.

He’s twelve… or possibly thirteen. Now, if he were thirty, I’d respect the concern, but not if he’s just a kid.

And… how is he keeping that sort of schedule? Doesn’t he have school? How old are you?

It’s summer break. No school until August.
I’m 16.

How long has he been playing WoW? Just over the break?

I’m sure I have once or twice

littlenick wrote:
How am I doing?

well……your really annoying when you first meet you but after that you start to love you…~!!!!

and yer i have been given loads of good advice, and it works most of the time!

Xeno and Caitherra,

I have been addicted to WoW for over a year, (was two years ago).
on the upper part, having not being judged by stigmas and prejudgment made it possible for me to be myself and be appreciated for who i am, which increased my self confidence.
people are just as true there as in life - if your an ******* in real life, you’d be an ******* in the game too. so yea, it is real people on the other side.
and trading there can be a real mastery of understanding people’s psychology.
i can go on saying lots of good things about the game’s content

HOWEVER

socializing in the game, plus doing activities that force you to stay in front of the computer , like dungeons, and obligations to other players, guild meetings, raids, daily quests…
the gaining more and more power with no real limit, having successes in this world that one might not be able to achieve in real life…

all these make this game really addictive.
it divides life to two different lives.
and since the virtual life seem to be more rewarding and satisfying, it is natural that people will prefer staying in there.
so real life is diminished, again and again, until it looses it’s meaning…
you eat just to get rid of hunger - which interrupts your gaming,
you sleep only because you can’t hold on awake another second to complete another achievement…
then you become physically week, you damage your health, which makes you even more reluctant to go outside and do something other than sit in front of the computer.

about numbing the mind:
computer games aren’t stimulating your imagination.
your brain doesn’t need to create images out of nothing, speculating, analyzing phenomenons… no, planning how to kill the next boss doesn’t count.
playing any game in the computer is only a set of easily adjustable reflexes,
reacting to visual (and sometimes vocal) stimulations,
it doesn’t use any other sense, nor smell nor touch nor taste…

gaming is some type of trance.
your brain gets to rest, stops thinking at all.
it is also addictive like a drug because of that, because when you are in trouble in life and needs a get-away, an escape from your own thoughts and feelings,
you turn to gaming, and sometimes it is the troubles caused by gaming that you are afraid to face which causes you to escape to gaming…
like any other addiction.

i know only two ways of stopping:
1. suffer from a trauma caused by the game
(like being really hurt by someone)

2. cut it off.
make the computer go away for at least a month with no alternatives
(no playstation, no over-watching tv, no “just checking e-mail on mom’s computer”)
do something fun and fulfilling during that months.
like, it could be in a one month cross country caravan tour,
or starting new hobbies, reading, playing an instrument, going to social activities, courses…
it is very hard to start with as you seem to forget what else there is in life other than the game, so you are in danger of sitting bored and doing nothing, producing anger on the fact that the computer has been denied of you.
so there has to be something always to be done with no spare moments.
and it might as well be something sportive and exhausting so in the end of the day all you would want to do is to sleep.

after a week it would become more fluent.

now there is the danger of coming back to it.
one must realize how clear his mind is when off the gaming.
one must realize how his life became better.
he must also know that it can ALL be lost by playing even 10 minuets.
and it is true.
it can erase your memory, suck you in again, 10 minuets become an hour, that becomes four, and before you know it in a day or two everything goes back to what it used to be…

but he cannot see the difference if he haven’t been completely out of it at least once.

about the trauma thing, well, i wouldn’t advise it.

i hope it helps,
i’ve been in and i’ve been out.
i am now very frightened to play any game, because my life went over a good turning point and i don’t want to lose all that.
and i know i’ve been working hard not to, and it is just not worth the 10 minuets.

had my best friend sworn to choke me if she ever catches me playing :)

Yes i was given great advice by two people who seemed to me as long-time users. their advice put me on to a path which i am on and very happy with…thanks help.

well ive gained a great deal of knowledge&understanding from this help site

hopefully ive helped a few along the way too :)

Yes, of course! And I hope I helped enough for some to take my advise.

I’m a pretty neat bloke and I know I have helped people here. The one I’m most proud of was of a guy who was raped and wasn’t coping well, I talked to him got him to go to the police and have the guy who did it arrested, because he came forward other men who had been raped came forward too. This site makes a positive difference to peoples life’s no doubt about it.

sparkleglit wrote:
I just found this site, typing keyword “help” because I am utterly bored. a very good find! I give advice all the time, but it’s up to the person to be willing to take it and do it for them. I am now helping a 15 yo girl to not commit suicide. I don’t know if this website would help her though, she might listen to some jerk who is insensitive. kudos to you thought. what I would be proud of, is not myself, but of this man you helped who came forward for himself and found a positive solution.

I was dead proud of him yes :) I mean really proud I felt like throwing him a party if im honest.

I have!!! Mostly practical things ^^

Yea, people here are really helpful :) Sometimes it’s not about advices that can actually solve your problems, it’s about talking to someone about these problems and finding the answer for yourself.

actually yeah. my dog nearly died but advice from ppl on this site saved her. i tend to find if you have a real serious problem ppl are more willing to help

I always hear one certain bit of advice on this site. At least once every day it is directed to someone here, but even if that someone is not myself, it always helps me as well. Two simple words that seem almost universal by this day and age.
“keep trying”
OP, you most definently have not been around this site enough to make a real opinion about the helpfullness of the site, I suggest that you “keep trying”

yahah, i been helped, got advice on my first post, took the advice and whaddaya know? im still here :)

I’ve had a lot of help on this site, mostly following the given advice. Thanks to everyone who helps on here! Just sharing a problem halfs it and all that jazz… so they say and I quite agree :) xox

Xeno Dragon wrote:

talianstallion2 wrote:

Xeno Dragon wrote:

talianstallion2 wrote:

Xeno Dragon wrote:
I’ve been helped here. I know I’ve helped others, here.

that is a lie. no could take you seriously with a name like that

Surprisingly, with 220 posts and 21,042 replies, I’ve been the most consistent and prolific Regular Ancient on the site for the past 2 years and 2 months. Not to mention one of the most popular until I chose to get rid of that distinction.

wow. that is the most nerdish thing i have ever heard. you have made my day in a way that no person in the real world could have. YOU HAVE TRULY HELPED ME!!!

Yeah, I also write comic books, am in school for IT, and I play WoW. I’m a nerd, and proud of it, b*tch.
Feel free to take these small parts of my life, use them to paint an incorrect picture of me, and use that to make yourself feel better about your own pathetic existence. There’s more to me than you could understand.

And seriously. “most nerdish”? Come on, at least TRY to sound like you have a few neurons firing around your skull, mmkay?

grbghp wrote:

Xeno Dragon wrote:
Surprisingly, with 220 posts and 21,042 replies, I’ve been the most consistent and prolific Regular Ancient on the site for the past 2 years and 2 months. Not to mention one of the most popular until I chose to get rid of that distinction.

and the most modest, too ;P

Hehe. Truth is truth.

At least Xeno he is honest. He is doing something with his life. Multi- tasking as you call it. Able to help, go to school and if working. I do not think people should be rude.

grbghp wrote:
Xeno and Caitherra,

Huh. I guess I’m immune to that, then. It’s not my only interest, it’s not my only focus, and it’s not something I do all the time. I go out, I stay healthy, I have real-life human interaction as well as online/phone interaction. I multitask even while playing, either listening to music, streaming comedy radio shows, talking on the phone, or browsing other websites. My imagination hasn’t been stunted, as I’ve written some of my best work during the time I’ve been playing. It’s an interest. Not an obsession. And memory? I’ve never had that problem, either. I’ll get into the game, but I’m not forgetting what’s going on around me.
It sounds like you’re describing a drug, without knowing anything about drugs. (If that makes any sense.) Maybe I’m not seeing things as drastically as you because I’ve dealt with the actual side effects of drugs before. I tried coke once. Stupid thing to do, but I did it. After finding the willpower to refuse to ever do it again, resisting the temptation to play WoW is easy as resisting the temptation to wear blue socks over black. It’s a cakewalk.

Enough about WoW, though, I’m done on that here. Feel free to talk in Shouts, though. http://help.com/user/74540-xeno-drago…