Family help: My mom thinks I shouldn’t have little things that make me different than her.

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My mom thinks I shouldn’t have little things that make me different than her.

Like, we went strawberry picking today, and this afternoon we were cleaning the berries and I was using a knife to get the leaves off instead of digging into the berry with my nail. I happen to not like to get stuff under my nails. She started yelling at me because I wasn’t doing it the way she told me to, saying I was a wimp. I’ve had this happen with tons of other stuff, to. Like having my own opinion. If I express an opinion different than my parent’s, I get in trouble. I’m just supposed to take everything they say and go “Well obviously since my parents said it, it’s right, even if it seems completely crazy.” I want to make good choices, like with opinions and stuff (voting stands out), but if I ever vote differently than them, or something like that, I’ll get in trouble. But this isn’t very constitutional, is it? Please help!
~Sarah

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Me.Myself.and.I 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (0 minutes after post)

oh btw, I’m 13

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Time Traveller 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

she’s wrong to do that. You have to be yourself you can’t be her.

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littlenick 159 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

Do what makes you happy. Your mom is not always going to be around to tell you what to do.

Me.Myself.and.I 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

I’ll try, but it’s hard to do that without getting in trouble here.

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laura.c.morga 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

Ask your mother whether she ever did anything different from the way her folks did it.

Then explain to her that you’re on your path to learning how to be an adult, and that you trust her to be able to tell the difference between when you’re actively disobeying her and when you’re just harmlessly experimenting with life. Tell her that she brought you up to be inquisitive and thoughtful, and that you’re exploring the world just like she’d want an intelligent daughter to do.

Then tell her that if you ever find you’re not sure about something important, you will always ask her advice.

Hopefully that will reassure her and give her the confidence to let you do your own thing a bit more. Good luck.

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4 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

ask her gently what she is afraid of, she’ll give you a flippant answer, but persist gently and that’ll make her address it

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GB | 4 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

dont worry get your back on your mum when shes an helpless old woman

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littlenick 159 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

talianstallion2 wrote:
remember you get to pick her nursing home.

Yeah, tell her you will choose a room where she has to have a roommate with a real bad flatulence problem who’s always picking her nose!!!

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (44 minutes after post)

sarahannoman wrote:
oh btw, I’m 13

You are allowed to think for yourself. Of course you are. I encourage you to do so, always.

But understand that your parents provide for you probably everything you have, they work to feed you (its harder than it sounds), clothe you and you’re here because of that. They know more then you do. So yes, always voice your opinion - but as long as you are being supported by them, you should respect them. If for no other reason, that one is a good one. No one else will support you, expecting nothing in return.

Be open to what they are saying and use your better judgment.

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Me.Myself.and.I 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 52 minutes after post)

she just turned 50, so she’s old and not very sense-of-humor-ish (sorry I couldn’t think of any other way to say it).

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usurper 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 55 minutes after post)

sarahannoman wrote:
she just turned 50, so she’s old and not very sense-of-humor-ish (sorry I couldn’t think of any other way to say it).

50 is not really “old” in my books.

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