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I’m so lost…

I don’t know where to start, I have no friends I haven’t found anything I enjoy doing. The one person I finally trusted broke my heart sometime ago and even then we never really talked much.

I have ADHD, and was the guy everyone ignored in school. I still to this day (I’m 27) find it almost impossible to have a casual conversation with anyone. I’m horrible at reading facial expressions and have no idea how to start a conversation, even with people I’ve known for years. Not for lack of trying but it’s always super awkward, and I very rarely find myself able to follow the conversation usually due to lack of interest.

I’m just sick and tired of everything, I’ve tried getting involved in different group/activities, but I just get annoyed or grow bored very quickly.

It’s like I’m not here. I recently went on a company trip, I’m not on a single picture from 3 different cameras and I was in the same place as everyone else, and they forgot about me while cooking dinner the one night. It may sound like I’m picking one event and hyperbolising it but this is a common occurrence this is just the most recent example.

I just don’t know what to do anymore.

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Anonymous #
5 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

I know how you feel I’m the same way.

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

Hi, if you want to do something that will help your mental state i recommend the following exercise. This have help many people before and if you do it with love it will help you. Life will take charge and you will start to see small change in your life. You need to do it daily if you want to see results. Ok here it is.

Go on Google and do a search for “Hu song”. Take the first link and read about it, listen to this song and try it. It work best if you do that while having a feeling of love for somebody you love or something you love to do. The idea is to change your state of mind to something in relation with love. Do this exercise 15 to 20 min per day. I’m sure you will see change in your life.

Best of luck

EckHusong

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 52 minutes after post)

I am janae I have the same problem. So if it would help I am here if you ever want to chat.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (20 hours, 43 minutes after post)

I would like that.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 day after post)

Not everyone is a social butterfly, but you can’t live your life comaring yourself to others. It doessuck that you weren’t in the pictures. It may be better to offer to take everyone elses picture in these situations in the future so you can have a reason not to be in them. There is a better chance someone will offer to snap a few so you can be in a couple.

You have a job where you can go on business trips with your coworkers! That is just a fantasy for many. I think you are better off than you realize!

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

Yeah it’s great I have all these fantastic material possesions, and a job some people wish they could have. I have on paper what to most people looks like a decent life.

You know what? I would happly trade all of the above for being able to connect with people, to feel as if i have atleast something in common. Fame and wealth are not, and never really have been important to me.

I’m not looking to be the center of attention or anything close to it. I don’t want my 15 mintues of fame. I most certenly do not compare my life to others as a way to validate my who I am.

There is a lot of poeple that suffer far worse then I do. That doesn’t make what I’m feeling any less.

I don’t care if 99.999% of people completely ignore me. I just want find something or someone that gives me a purpose or direction.

Anyway I could spout off for hours sorry for ranting, and I’m sure I sound super emo but whatever it is what it is.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (4 days, 14 hours after post)

I was just stoping by to say Hi and see how you were doing? Did you do anything fun for the 4th.

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