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I need major advice

Okay so I broke up with my boyfriend of over four years last week. I have never broken up with anyone before and it was the most painful and hardest thing i have ever done. over the last few months he has been distant and short with me and i was done. he had been lazy over the course of our relationship and i felt like it was 80-20 not 50-50. we used to talk about getting married and having kids but recently it had just been akward silences when we were together. he keeps emailing me promising that he will change and telling me all of the things he did wrong and how he will fix them, but how do i know if this is genuine? im trying to be strong and back my decision (because again im new at this) but what if im making a big mistake? i would love some advice from anyone, boys especially

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baseball_matt_9 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

well im a boy.. nvr had a gf cuz my ***** parents and depression.. buti might be able to help. im sure u feel bad but imagine how he feels about this.rejection feeling i guess.lol. but just ask him about it. maybe he was going through sumthin that made him distant from u like some kinda secret mental battle.if not hes a lazy dirtbag. but if u still have feelings 4 him be “ust friends ” for a while and see how he changes…..idk tho maybe im full of ****.. im a 17 yr old guy.good luk anyway

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wondertwin1 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

thanks, its okay im only 18. my parents arent any help because they dont think teenagers should be together longer than like 4 months…

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srnityblu offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Regina, SK, CA | 4 months, 1 week ago (16 minutes after post)

Well if you came to this decision, then perhaps you need to stick to it and not be guilted or convinced that your decision was wrong.

You had feelings for a while, and your decision is something that you made that is right for you is it not?

He’s upset because he loves you still, and your decision that you made was arbitrary and not mutual. You want more out of your life, there is nothing wrong with that. You are young with alot of possiblities ahead of you. Settling is never the best way to go.
Remain true to yourself don’t allow anyone to make decisions you are unsure of or do not want to make.

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