Love help: I think I’m still in love with my first true crush, even though it was so long ago…

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I think I’m still in love with my first true crush, even though it was so long ago…

I’ve had an…interesting career with relationships. Only one girlfriend in my 19 years, but a hell of a lot of crushes….it seems to be that all the girls that I fall the hardest for (according to my analysis and of my friends) fall under a certain classification…I always thought that was just my preference…until I caught up with my old best friend from way back in the day….when her and I got to talking, I realized that she had all the traits that were common to these girls who I’ve fallen for since I’ve known her…I’m quite afraid that she’s the original archetype for all my crushes…and part of me is really scared that she’s….you know, the one or whatever…

So, here’s the question. How does a teenager, in college, multiple time zones away from the potential love of their life (with whom they’ve lost contact for almost 10 years) deal with such a thing? I realize she’s not the same person, I’m probably in love with a concept or mirage….but yet, I have such a strong desire to get to know her, to be with her regardless…and I don’t know why I can’t resist. I know it’s illogical, I know it’s childish, I know it’s stupid…but still…

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candp 3 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Are the traits in all of your gals physical in nature or personality traits? Is this girl living in your hometown? Are you going home for Christmas Vacation? If so, could the two of you hook up and spend some time together. Maybe you would find she is no longer who you imagine her to be and that would end your dilemma. If she is everything you imagine and you are everything she is looking for miles and time differences won’t stand in the way. You do have a cell phone, right?

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Diesel1 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (4 hours, 59 minutes after post)

How did you get “caught up” with this old friend? Did you call her or did she call you? Or was it through an event or something? Could you sense any of the same feelings coming from her? Why not break the ice and call her telling her your true feelings? At this point in your life there is no reason to hesitate. Distance should never matter, it is just a hurdle that you have to overcome. “Distance is to love as wind is to a flame, it either kindles it making it stronger or blows it out”. Go get em tiger.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (5 hours, 24 minutes after post)

oh its too hard 2 read all dat shit!…i really wanna help u thou but don wanna read so much…so next tym try 2 keep it as short as possible…lol!!!..i’m jus playin!…dont mind thou…i got nothin better 2 do..so i’m rytin dis crap!..lol

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Wallstormer 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (8 hours, 21 minutes after post)

Oh, I forgot to write about that little catch…she left a long time ago, and moved time zones away. I found her on Myspace (which was ironic because I was so dead-set against getting one in the first place) when we first caught up last year, and we talked about how close we were in the past…she said she always thought she was going to marry me, heh…anyway, once she asked me what I expected after I found her, and I lied and said that I just wanted to catch up and be friends again. I couldn’t really tell if she was disappointed or not, but she most certainly has been more social than I; she had a very steady bf when I first started talking to her again. Since then things have changed, but I highly doubt that she’s maintained the feelings for me that I have for her (After all, I’m kind of a screwed up individual).

ollie-mae 8 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (9 hours, 25 minutes after post)

Hello!

I really beleive in true love…..I have had many loves in my time and when you get real close to the real true love you’ll feel it!
This man that I’m dating now is so beautiful and kind and giving ..he is like a gift to me I am so in love with him ,but there is a problem he has a different future than I …..its very confusing for both us,why would we put together and have to part (I’ll tell you,god has given me this person as a gift ….telling me that my real true love is on the way)WHY!I cant stand this feeling of being seperated from this person it hurts to think of them not in my life!
I’m getting ready to receive my true love…so what Iam telling you is this, you’re going back to complete where you left off befor she left,its a gift to you….. focus on the all your feelings and senses and let this happen do not stop the feelings,
Allow her to show you who she is to your heart take your time and feel everthing…..you’ll know after a short time ( enjoy these feelings )

Like I told you if this is not your soulmate,then this next person coming in is your soulmate and this old girlfriend is a gift to you!

hugs to you and lots of love!

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crystalshine420 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (9 hours, 43 minutes after post)

hey sweety just read your question and its a very good one maybe its not so much that your inlove with this person but u feel drawn to them….some times things happen that we just cant explane.maybe u should try to find this person and give them a call.. who knows she might be looking for u 2

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darlingdezzy 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (2 weeks, 5 days after post)

aw, look she has to be smart for likeing you, and i think that she does, yea i know im young to know anything but your obviously a smart guy but every now and again you do need a lil help from a girl so hear goes… she must like you and you must like her, some girls think it’s cute when you get all kidish again you know like pass a note sayin check yes or no ! lol ! but it’s true so i think you should send a cute sweet e-mail that’ll make her giggle and tell her how you feel ! :) and if she feels the same way then she’ll reply positively ! :) ( BTW: it’s not dumb! )

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

All i have to say is:

When it comes to love, and you get a gut feeling you should really follow whatever it is telling you to do, or to think. Take action on what is in your heart, and soul. Your heart will guide you threw the things your confused about. Trust it with your deepest state of confussion. Trust it for love refrence.

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sorangecastill #
Houston, TX, US | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (1 year, 2 months after post)

the guy i’ve been dating for almost a year just told me he thinks he still in love with his first girlfriend..my heart is broke but i told him to follow his.

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