Love help: I want a parents opinion — I want to date an older guy. - Help.com

and his age is…? (yes - it is relevant)

I’m married to a guy who is 15 years older than me, we met when I was 16. All I can say is give it a try and see how it goes, as with any relationship.

It’s ok when you’re both young, but he is now 52 and I’m a youngish 36 and the gap is more noticeable.

Good luck and hope it works out for you x

I dont want to say how old he is because last time people here just told me how “wrong it is” — I really DONT need that.

He’s 5+ years.

Sarahd, I’m so glad someone with a similar situation is here. Is there anything you can think of to help my parents understand that it’s not about the age? Something to look passed the number, and instead give him a chance to at least get to know him and then make their opinion?

Well ok I think you should introduce him to your parents, thats a start. Have you had any other relationships?

Just take it one step at a time and see what happens.

Anonymous wrote:
I dont want to say how old he is because last time people here just told me how “wrong it is” — I really DONT need that.

He’s 5+ years.

Sarahd, I’m so glad someone with a similar situation is here. Is there anything you can think of to help my parents understand that it’s not about the age? Something to look passed the number, and instead give him a chance to at least get to know him and then make their opinion?

and ehm.. well we think its wrong, but that doesnt matter its up to your parents sop stop asking us and ask them

sarahd197 wrote:
Well ok I think you should introduce him to your parents, thats a start. Have you had any other relationships?

Just take it one step at a time and see what happens.

Yes, I’ve had two other relationships. One with a guy my own age and one with a guy 4 years older. They accepted the one 4 years older, so I’m hoping they will be more open to this one, but the age difference is harder to swallow.

I’m planning on talking to my mom about him, and then asking her if she’d just give him a chance just to get to know him by all of us going to dinner, what do you think?

Yes defo speak to your mum, mine was pretty pissed when I told her! But they came around. can i ask how old you are and your bf?

I’m 17 and my would-be boyfriend is 26. Was there anything in specific that you told your mom that helped her be more accepting?

Thats not too bad a gap!! Well I think you should tell your mom his good points and how he makes you feel, then introduce him. Hope it goes well!

Thank you for the encouragement and advice. Nice to hear from someone whose done it! =)

Actually, Sarahd, is there a way I can contact you more privately? I know you may be busy or such right now, but if there might be another time you could write me some more detailed guidance and anything about your experience, I would appreciate that so much. No one seems to understand the situation I’m in except for those immediately relavent to it.
If you wouldnt have a chance to do something like that then that’s okay too, I’m just wondering if you’d be willing

Hi,

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Sarah

sarahd197 I would also really like to get your input on my age difference relationship… your email didn’t show up here. I am going to add you as a friend and maybe then I can message you or something…

Anonymous: my age difference is more than twice yours, so I wouldn’t be too scared. As long as you can show your parents that you are compatible and truly care for each other then they should accept it because they want to see you happy.

Ok no problem, hope things are going ok for you. S x