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There is a funny part about life. Sometime you have to choose between 2-3 or more things. Last month I’ve meet the most wonderful person I could meet. I’m in my 20’s and I never thought I’ll meet someone to trust or someone to love/like. It may sound funny, but my work is the first thing in my life. The choice is that I plan on leaving college and starting my own bussiness - then leaving the country and getting my work done.
I’ve promised her we’ll do something together - not love, chill - like a bussiness for people because she was one of the firsts who had my ideas. I talk to her once, we plan hitting seaside in a couple of days - but after that I won’t probably see her again. I’ll move from the town where college is, start my work, leave everything and start something new.

It may sound childhish, but.. I choose me - I’m so selfish :-(

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Miiau! offline Verified User (9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 176 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Doesnt most of us do that… choose ourselves? Id choose hatever Id find more important.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (10 minutes after post)

hey
u made the rite choice
wot if she turned out to be a tottal b.it.ch??
so wot chu want
mayb u could meet up when ur both older

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alexandru_email_12 offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (14 minutes after post)

She won’t. In the future everything will be different :-)

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friendlyheart offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (36 minutes after post)

well dear, it is not childish.. it’s your choice.. as you feel it’s better for you
if you still feel work is in the first place then you should do that ..
it’s your choice..no one can do it instead of you..
and as long as you won’t regret it it;s ok

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trekkie offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (40 minutes after post)

I respect your decision. Just make sure you don’t lead her on into thinking that you two hanging out is going to turn into something more.

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Victoria Sponge offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Fritwell, K2, GB | 5 months ago (41 minutes after post)

Honey you need to think about what will make you happy in the future, even if it is a little selfish thats what we all do really

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alexandru_email_12 offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (49 minutes after post)

@Victoria: yest, it’s true.
@trekkie: I will not :-)
@friendlyheart: I’ll regret, because I promise her we’ll change the world together (or a small piece) and after the sea-side I’ll dissapear forever. But it’s my choice.

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trekkie offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (51 minutes after post)

alexandru_email_12 wrote:
@Victoria: yest, it’s true.
@trekkie: I will not :-)
@friendlyheart: I’ll regret, because I promise her we’ll change the world together (or a small piece) and after the sea-side I’ll dissapear forever. But it’s my choice.

Why do you think you’ll regret it?

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friendlyheart offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (52 minutes after post)

alexandru_email_12 wrote:
@Victoria: yest, it’s true.
@trekkie: I will not :-)
@friendlyheart: I’ll regret, because I promise her we’ll change the world together (or a small piece) and after the sea-side I’ll dissapear forever. But it’s my choice.

you’ll regret it because you’ll leave her?
but then why won’t you tell her what you are going to do.. and see how she reacts…

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alexandru_email_12 offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (53 minutes after post)

I’ll regret - Because I hate breaking my promises. And I saw her face how happy she was finding someone like her to start something (I don’t talk about relationship her, but a little bussines for people), I’ll promise her I’ll be next do her and I won’t be.

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alexandru_email_12 offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (55 minutes after post)

@friendlyheart - I’ll tell her. But whetever I tell her, breaking my promise and putting me in the first place would be a very selfish thing.

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friendlyheart offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (55 minutes after post)

that’s sad but true.. why don’t you tell her that you broke your promise..
it might not seem like but she will once be thankful for you being honest..
she might hate you in the first place but later she’ll be better
at least you tried to make things better
it’s your life and your choice..

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friendlyheart offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (59 minutes after post)

may be selfish..
but it’s your life btw.. and it’s your choice.. we all do what’s better for us.. don’t we?
if that’s your dream..you shouldn’t give up on it..
and tell her that she probably won’t give up on her dreams..

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alexandru_email_12 offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

It’s all my fault. All the year I watched her - never had the courage to get into the conversation. At the end she contacted me and I promised her something - and I won’t be there any more. I won’t help her to create, I cannot dissapoint her. She showed me the nicest friendship from all the people I know.

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friendlyheart offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

sorry to hear that.. i mean that you will dissapoint her..
but then what would you like to do?
i mean if you decided already then there isn’t really way out.. but hurting her by your decision.. but she might understand.. i hope so.. even if it’s really hard..
but don’t just disappear like that.. will hurt her even more.. talk to her baout it..really

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trekkie offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

Talk to her about your plans. Tell her that you need to do this for yourself.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 130 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

Never put your life on hold or the things you dream or want to do just because someone tells you to.

You should always follow your dreams otherwise you will have a life full of regrets.

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alexandru_email_12 offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (2 hours, 12 minutes after post)

@friendlyheart: sometime when dealing with extraordinary people you may be friend all your life, you can’t dissapoint them. The point is that I don’t have all my dreams in the making (I talk about money in the first place) and leaving college will dump he home - another city. I hope I’ll make enough money this summer in order to go on the college city on my own and don’t dissapoint her - and continue getting both things done.

@littlenick: I always follow my dreams. In this case there are more dreams I have to choose at the moment.

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missy10139 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (2 hours, 29 minutes after post)

It’s not really the selfish thing to do.. But you need to make a decision on where you want to be in the end. Are you always gonna chose work over love? Think about when you die. About how your life flashes before your eyes. What would give you a happy life? Work or love?

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friendlyheart offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (2 hours, 30 minutes after post)

would be nice..
i have to rush now.. but add me as friend and i’m going to talk to you later
hope you can make it and then you will feel a lot better about your choice:)
see ya

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alexandru_email_12 offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (3 hours, 8 minutes after post)

@missy: I’ll choose love.
@friendlyheart: thanks!

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friendlyheart offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (3 hours, 19 minutes after post)

missy10139 wrote:
It’s not really the selfish thing to do.. But you need to make a decision on where you want to be in the end. Are you always gonna chose work over love? Think about when you die. About how your life flashes before your eyes. What would give you a happy life? Work or love?

he is still young.. has a life in front of his eyes
and love.. if he feels right now he needs work to be in the first place then love can still wait..
dreams are important :)

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