Time for another boyfriend rant :)
My boyfriend and I went to the movie theater to go see The Hangover (btw it’s not bad, but it’s overrated). When it was over, he says, “Want to get something to eat, baby? Let’s go to a sit-down restaurant!” so I said, “I’d love that!” and we go to Ruby Tuesdays. So we sit down, the waitress brings us water, and he smiles at me and says I look beautiful. Hehehe I was so happy :D so we’re just sitting there giggling at each other and being sickeningly cute, and he suddenly says, “Hey cutie, how much money do you have left?” I say, “I’ve got $10, why?” He gets this funny look on his face, pulls out his wallet, and counts out five $1 bills.
I’m running a little short on funds, so I brought $20 with me. I spent $7 on my movie ticket, donated $2 to the charity the theater was sponsoring, spent $1 on candy for us to share, and had $10 to buy dinner. I wasn’t too hungry, so I figured $10 would be enough. I wasn’t expecting him to buy my dinner, even though it was his idea to go eat. But he brought $10 to go towards his movie ticket, and happened to have $2 already in his wallet. Apparently, he didn’t think he’d need more money than that, because he figured I’d pick up the tab for him, like I always do. But I’m almost completely broke; at least half of my money goes to paying for him when we go out, and a good chunk of the rest goes to him in other random ways. The only things I spend my money on are books. I wouldn’t let him pay for me if he asked, and I don’t mind picking up the tab for him when he doesn’t have enough money, but up until this point, I didn’t realize he actually COUNTED on me to pay for him.
So then he says, “Well, if we both get something relatively cheap, we’ll have enough for us both to get something.” I reminded him about the tip, and he said, “Uh-oh, I forgot about that… How much money do you have on your debit card?” When I told him I didn’t have my debit card with me, he said, “Well, I guess we could use my debit card. I hope there’s enough money on it. Just make sure you get something that isn’t really expensive. We’ll just hope there’s enough.” I could tell he was upset, so I said, “Oh, no, baby, don’t worry about it. I’m not that hungry. You just get something.” He thought about it, but then he said that he couldn’t not let me get something. So I picked the cheapest thing I could find, and we ordered our food, and then I realized he was kind of ticked off at ME for not bringing enough money. He was annoyed that he had to use his debit card. So I said, sarcastically, “I’m sorry, baby. I should have brought more money. I should have known you wouldn’t bring any. This is my fault, and I’m sorry. I’ve just run out of money. I used to be so good with my money… I don’t know what’s happened.” And he said, “No, that’s okay. I won’t do this again. I was taking advantage of you and how you’re always willing to pay for me.” So I said, “Oh, you were?!” and he said, “Yes, I was, even though I didn’t like to think of it that way… I was. That’s the scummiest thing a person can do.”
He looked kind of depressed, so I tried to reassure him that I wasn’t mad, and I said, “Are you sure there’s enough money on your card? How much is on there?” He told me he thought there was about $50. So you know what? He knew there’d be enough money on his card. He just didn’t want to have to break it out. I think he was hoping I’d figure out a way to pay for it so that he wouldn’t have to. So when the bill came, I gave him my $10, which covered both my meal and the tip, and he gave the waitress his debit card.
I want to make it clear that I’m not in the least bit mad at him for doing this, surprisingly enough (besides, he’s done much worse)… But I have a feeling I should be. Everyone (my friends, his friends, my family, HIS family, and even he himself) tells me I treat him too well and cut him too much slack. I just can’t ever get actually mad at him. But it does make me kinda sad that he could take advantage of me like that… I’d never be able to do something like that to him :-/
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