Family help: Should i forgive him?

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Should i forgive him?

This is about my dad, i don’t know what to think of him anymore sometimes i think he is a nasty bastard but i still love him, but for what he has done i don’t know if i can ever forgive him.

In 2003 i was just 13 when i was woke up in the middle of the night to find him lifting my mum off the ground by the throat trying to kill her. luckily he stopped but it didn’t stop him breaking her nose when she called her brothers to help, me and her left to live with my grandfather so in an attempt to make us stay he threatened to kill himself. My uncles still took us away anyway, since then he has tried to kill himself several times and even when i was 14 he told me that he was sick and he wouldn’t live to see my 15th birthday.

He apparently started to suffer from mental illness and started to show multiple personalities but i recently found out this was just a joke he played and thought it was funny. Though he still talks about voices in his head telling him to kill himself

He doesn’t talk to any of his brothers or his sister anymore as they are sick of him and his attitude

I don’t know what to do with him, if i told him what i have written here he would react in one of three ways.

1. he would get angry and shout me

2. he would deny everything and get very scarcastic

3. he would start to cry and talk about killing himself

What should i do?

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

Has he ever visited a professional for help?

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Talk with a Psychiatric. He is obviously sick, mental sick and cannot see or admit it. No point to talk with him about. Waste of time and counter productive.

Ask a Spy, he may need to be treated before something irreversible would happen. Not really his fault, he is just sick.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

And yes you should forgive him…nothing was done that caused irreversible harm as ‘hop’ mentioned. You may not like him as much as you want to for a father figure, but it appears that he isn’t quite right upstairs.

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

he has been to see a Phychiatrist who said that he attempted to kill himself over the shock of loosing my mum and me, he said besides of that he all he has is depression for which he has anti-depressents. This was back in 2003 but i personally believe that he uses the voices in his head as a way of making people do what he wants and to be the centre of attention, i’ve noticed he only seems to mention it when no-one is talking to him

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

Who do you think is in the best position to help him out?

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

This is very difficult to answer because, the answer would obviously be, “NO!”

But, he is your father. He should see a Psychiatrist, try to help.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

Blodwen Lilith wrote:
This is very difficult to answer because, the answer would obviously be, “NO!”

But, he is your father. He should see a Psychiatrist, try to help.

If it’s very difficult to answer then the answer cannot be obvious.

And if you can’t forgive then you will never become whole. The ability to forgive is an advanced feature of the human mind. In order to accept that life is not written in a perfect script, forgiveness is a necessary feature for human kind.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (53 minutes after post)

All of the things you have questioned about your father are do to his mental illness. Ask youself:

What normal person would attack a women and try to strangle her? And what normal person has voices in his head trying to manipulate those around him? What normal person seeks or threatens to commit suicide?

You can forgive your father or anyone for that matter once you believe that mental illness is the cause of their actions. Mental illness is a state where a person doesn’t have a conscious awareness of those around them and/or their feelings. Their bazarre reactions are so out of the realm of reality to what has taken place. They see others as a threat to their personal wellbeing.

I would not visit your father alone. In his state of mind he is not trustworthy. So be careful and I am so sorry that this is happening to you.

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