Love help: i kinda need some advice >.>

jakep133

i kinda need some advice >.>

so, I’ve known this girl for like 4 years, i met her in high school on my senior year. she’s the only girl or any friend for that matter that I’ve had for that long of a time. She means SO much to me. and we talk about literally everything, sorta like bestfriends would.. But i have a problem… I’ve been madly inlove with her this whole time and i tell her jokingly, i dont know if she actually takes me seriously when i say it. there’s a few reasons i dont make a move on her. 1, im afraid of ruining our friendship we got into an intimate relationship. 2, i know who/what shes interested in (shes my bestfriend she tells me everything) so i feel like my chances with her are diminished because i know that she has interest in other people, and honestly i have no idea how she feels about me. has anyone else ever been in a situation like this? please give me some advice…

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iggybe #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

I would just ask her what she thinks of you.
Ask her where your relationship is (if you are just friends)
Get a conversation going and you guys can talk about it together, since you can “tell everything to eachother”

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jakep133 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

yeah, you’re right.. im on the phone with her right now and have been for the last 5 hours straight. i kind of have been like hinting towards the fact that i really like her. i just dont want her to take it the wrong way… thats the only thing i can’t seem to muster up enough guts to talk to her about… *sgh*

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bloodshot! 167 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (48 minutes after post)

Uhm, Ill tell you something. Ive met a guy smoe time ago that I really did like, actually even more than like, but I wasnt sure if he liked me so I just let things be and never mentioned what I felt like. He talked to me about it and what turned out, he more than liked me too! SO just ask her how she feels and if she asks you the same question dont give her a joking answer, cause that soooo confuses things x__x. Then you dont know if you really mean it or it was jsut something you said.. you know, make sure she gets what you mean if you decide to tell her about your feeling :) Good luck!

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emma_locke 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

tell her that you like her more and see what happeneds she may feel the same!!! good luck x

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jakep133 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (9 hours, 8 minutes after post)

thanks for the advice ladies. next time i hang out with her i think im gonna ask her. she makes me so NERVOUS though.. every time i talk to her my heart raccces. ughh akjsfdjahkksjdfhka i hope i have the guts to find out. :)

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emma_locke 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

tell us the out come!

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jakep133 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (2 days, 15 hours after post)

well i wrote her an letter, with no return address, so next time we talk shes going to bring it up, and then i can tell her it was me.. Just as an ice breaker… i think it might work..

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czeur 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (3 days, 7 hours after post)

nice idea..good luck!

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 2 days after post)

I’m kind of in the same situation…Well, not exactly the same, but I’m friends with a guy and I’m crazy about him…only thing is, he’s married. I don’t want him to cheat on his wife, but I don’t want to pass up something great just because I showed up 8 months too late, ya know? He knows how I feel and the feeling is mutual, but I don’t want him to cheat on his wife if he loves her…or if she loves him, who am I to screw up what’s good in her life?

jakep133 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 2 days after post)

or you could think of it this way, two happiness’s for the price of one? :P haha. good luck though =/

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just4u 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 2 days after post)

hey jus tell your friend that u r in love with her and u ppl might be having a lot of things in common since u kno her for more than 4 years. jus tel it to her because u might never get a girl like her in ur life again

iloveelvis 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 2 days after post)

Thanks, but the likelihood if us being together while he’s still with his wife, and all three of us being happy…Lol…I don’t see that panning out.

jakep133 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 2 days after post)

hahaha yeahh i donno about that… i hope it works out for you nikki. \

@swathi im getting to that point.. i never mailed her that letter. i think im going to either do that or just come out with it.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 4 days after post)

Hmm, i think you should try it. I mean why not take a risk, i know your freaked but the worse that could happen; she doesn’t feel the same, but then again she could be just like you and hasn’t said anything. I wouldn’t hold back, i did that with my guy best friend and now he has a girlfriend and i’m screwed.
Good luck :)

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