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I think i’m actually telling her today.

I think i’m actually going to tell my mother that I want therapy today. I wrote down what I want to say, but from people from experience is there anything I should or shouldn’t say?
Here it is:

Last night when you said my eating was bad, you were right. You can’t imagine what I’ve gone through in the past year. I’ve been hiding and struggling with depression and I’m on my way to anorexia. If you looked in my internet history you’d see I’ve wrote on help site after help site.
Alex & Shelby went to our Vice Principal during the school year because they thought I needed help.
I hate the way I look. I hate my weight. In the past 6 months I’ve had suicidal thoughts multiple times. In December I lost 3 pounds in under two weeks from lack of food. I started doing it again this summer. I have little to no self-esteem.
I know you probably think I’m faking and don’t need a counselor, but I have forums to prove it. I have my vice principal to tell you. I could show you things on forums where I’ve been told I should talk to someone.
I know we can’t get it right now, but I want help with all my might. This is ruining me.

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Is there anything I should add or take off?

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Dorian offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

It might actually be worth giving her that as a letter - that way you won’t have to worry about tripping over your words when you talk to her. It’s also a lot easier to just hand her a piece of paper than to start a conversation like that. Either way, I wish you the very best of luck. Don’t give up hope :)

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

I might try that, but I was worried that if I did that then I wouldn’t be able to explain something if I noticed she was upset or didn’t understand. that would ruin it completely if that happened D:

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

hi Miyuki50,
i first want to say that you’re very brave for wanting to let your mother know, and that i hope everything works out in your favor.
another thing that may help you out before you talk to her, is to think about questions she might ask you and what your answers would be. ex. if money is an issue, let her now that most insurances will cover it, and some schools even have free counseling…especially in college.
personally, i did not have the support that i wanted/needed from my parents…i have depression, anxiety, used to cut, and started to replace my cutting with anorexia. they didn’t want to hear it, they just pretending like nothing was wrong and that i was just being stupid, and could stop whenever i wanted to…i went off to college, and my friend saw my scars, told me about the free counseling and if it wasn’t for him, i don’t know where i’d be today.
i’m not trying to scare you out of telling her, i really think you should…it helps having them know..i just want you to know that there are other options if it doesn’t turn out the way you want it to.
if you ever need/ want to talk, i’m here.

Good luck!!!

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

Give it to her in person and be there when she reads it. That way if she wants you to clarify something, you’ll be able to do it then and there.

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

I’m sorry if you didn’t want me to read this.

I think telling her is a good idea, but be careful. And also remember, she might tell your Dad, so also be careful of that. If you didn’t tell her, talk to me. Or if you did…. and something happened, you can talk to me as well.

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