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i don’t know what to do anymore, i have been with my

bf for 4 months now and we do everything together and i have never been happy, but it does mean that i don’t come home as often as i used to, i’m 19 years old but my mum seems to think she can still control me and continues to tell me that i must come home but i don’t want to i am happy doing what i’m doing, only problem is when i try to tell her she is controlling me and needs to stop she loses her temper shouts and never listens, i am in tears practically every day because i feel it is not my life, what do i do, please help!!!! x

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5 months ago (25 minutes after post)

HI Michelle,

I have a similar problem with mine but you may need to get professional advice on how to approach your mother. It sounds like she has anger issues that you may ultimately help her with in the end but the current situation is about you.

You may have to understand why she does not want you to stay with your boyfriend. There can be many reasons for this, her childhood experience, how she views you or she may be taking things out on you.

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Your mom is afraid of losing you. She still wants to believe that you are the same little girl that you use to be. If talking to her doesn’t help, try writing her a letter. That will help. Tell her how you feel and that you still love her, you’re 19 and you want to explore life. Tell her you are protected (from pregnancy)and nothing will happen to you. Don’t lie in the letter. I hope you are protected. Tell her in the letter about your bf. If you explain to her this way (letter) she has a chance of referring back to it every now and then. She will better understand.

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