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You have a degree in psychology but you don’t know how to move on?

Asking for help is a big pill to swallow for some people.

Just admit that you’re human and that yes, you do need help.

Have you been saying “I don’t need anyone” you whole life? Truth is - you do need other people, you do need help sometimes.

Just admit it to yourself. Sounds like you haven’t quite come to terms with it.

Deja Vu?

I have seen this post before with the exact same answers. Weird!!!!

I think he has come to terms with it, he just doesn’t know how to ask for help.

i’m the same way. not a psychologest though. i’m in really tight finatual situation right now because of a empoyeer embezzeled all the company funds and wont pay me what he owes me like $8000.00 I cant pay rent, my power has been shut off and all i can do is sit here in complete fear. i know i have to ask for help but i fear the responce i “might” get.

fear can be very paralizing. it mostly due to lack of trust in other people or ultimantly God.

I definitely have a lack of trust in others, and a fear of being vulnerable. I am afraid to let others in and have them question me. I am afraid of the help I will get because of those trust issues. How do I find the right person to confide in?

khassel wrote:
I definitely have a lack of trust in others, and a fear of being vulnerable. I am afraid to let others in and have them question me. I am afraid of the help I will get because of those trust issues. How do I find the right person to confide in?

If we aren’t connecting with other people - than what the hell are we here for?!

The right person to confide in is someone who has already shown to you that they care for you. Pick a handful of people and create a circle of trust. Confide in those people and work your way to trusting those who have shown they care for you.

I suppose that maybe my problem, I don’t know how to connect to others and that is why I don’t know what the hell I am here for.

Well what have you tried? Have you tried anything or is this your first attempt?

I have confided in a friend who “cares”. She has had great suggestions, I just can not take the first step. I am too ashamed that I can not deal with the situation myself. I know I should not be ashamed and there are many resources. I am petrified to admit I have a problem face to face. I know I will not be judged, but I judge, it is human nature. Trusting someone else and the fear of what I will feel prevents me from moving forward.

For lack of better words I feel lazy. I don’t want to be faced with the work I know I need to put in to figure this out. It is easier to escape into work or television or helping someone else solve their problems than figure out my own issues.

Anonymous wrote:
It is easier to escape into work or television or helping someone else solve their problems than figure out my own issues.

Ha ha I think we all know a little something about that.

Why do you put “cares” in quotation marks?

I think you need to start by jumping that pedestal you’re putting yourself on. Why shouldn’t you need help? Why is that shaming to you?

I dont know if your problem is that you can ask for help, you just dont know how to take the help you’re given.

I don’t know buddy - you have to try. You’re lazy because you’re depressed. Its a cycle and you have to break it if you want to change it.