How to “let go”. - Help.com

In what context?

depends on what

If holding a jar of pickles just release the grip in your hands and the jar of pickles will fall to the earth.

As in let go of insecurities about stupid things like boys, and work and just accept things for what they are and live?

You need to analyze yourself and ask yourself why you have such insecurities. Sometimes you just have to accept things for the way they are instead of twisting things around so they can keep on torturing your fragile soul.

Spend quality time alone. Put as much effort into the day as u would 4 someone u love.
Take care of yourself.

littlenick wrote:
You need to analyze yourself and ask yourself why you have such insecurities. Sometimes you just have to accept things for the way they are instead of twisting things around so they can keep on torturing your fragile soul.

My fragile soul? Don’t condescend me on my own post, please and thank you.

ameliaearthlin wrote:
Spend quality time alone. Put as much effort into the day as u would 4 someone u love.
Take care of yourself.

I do spend time alone, often. Some people are just good at letting things go and I’m not. I would like to know how one goes about it. Spending time by myself only leads me to thinking about the things I am having trouble letting go of.

I think the way you talk is not “boys” that you want to let go of, but “men.” You don’t sound like a teenager. How old are you?

U need the closure.
You need to mentally let yourself let go.
Visually doing something like wriiting a list of the past problems then burying them may help.

Imagining the future as something happy will help u want to move forward and leave the sad past behind.
x

littlenick wrote:
I think the way you talk is not “boys” that you want to let go of, but “men.” You don’t sound like a teenager. How old are you?

I’m 22. And no, its boys.

Anonymous wrote:

littlenick wrote:
I think the way you talk is not “boys” that you want to let go of, but “men.” You don’t sound like a teenager. How old are you?

I’m 22. And no, its boys.

lol

ameliaearthlin wrote:
U need the closure.
You need to mentally let yourself let go.
Visually doing something like wriiting a list of the past problems then burying them may help.

Imagining the future as something happy will help u want to move forward and leave the sad past behind.
x

I like that - making a list and burying it thing! I actually love that idea!! Thank you.

I was not being condescending when I said “your fragile soul.” I was just trying to situate you feelings and your need to let go. OK. So Let’s agree that you don’t have a “fragile soul.” You have a soul, period.

Anonymous wrote:

ameliaearthlin wrote:
U need the closure.
You need to mentally let yourself let go.
Visually doing something like wriiting a list of the past problems then burying them may help.

Imagining the future as something happy will help u want to move forward and leave the sad past behind.
x

I like that - making a list and burying it thing! I actually love that idea!! Thank you.

no prob I do it whenever I need closure, stamp the earth down good hun.
Then start moving forward immedatly.

littlenick wrote:
I was not being condescending when I said “your fragile soul.” I was just trying to situate you feelings and your need to let go. OK. So Let’s agree that you don’t have a “fragile soul.” You have a soul, period.

Sounded condescending, with the whole “torturing” bit. Or rather, sarcastic.

ameliaearthlin wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

ameliaearthlin wrote:
U need the closure.
You need to mentally let yourself let go.
Visually doing something like wriiting a list of the past problems then burying them may help.

Imagining the future as something happy will help u want to move forward and leave the sad past behind.
x

I like that - making a list and burying it thing! I actually love that idea!! Thank you.

no prob I do it whenever I need closure, stamp the earth down good hun.
Then start moving forward immedatly.

Love it. I’m a visual person too - I never considered doing that before. Thank you so much, again.

Hell yeah stomp your feet! Plant those problems! People used to just kick the dog or beat their kids but that’s not politically correct anymore… no you need a face to face. Get in the boy’s space and tell him goodbye forever mo fo. Don’t look back.

It may not be politically correct, but I still kick the dog and beat the kids. Not necessarily ones that belong to me either.

Dr. Ralph wrote:
Hell yeah stomp your feet! Plant those problems! People used to just kick the dog or beat their kids but that’s not politically correct anymore… no you need a face to face. Get in the boy’s space and tell him goodbye forever mo fo. Don’t look back.

lol, yeah and whenever u want u can go stomp there. Claim your life back, claim the future. You are in control.

Dr. Ralph wrote:
Hell yeah stomp your feet! Plant those problems! People used to just kick the dog or beat their kids but that’s not politically correct anymore… no you need a face to face. Get in the boy’s space and tell him goodbye forever mo fo. Don’t look back.

Ha ha ha thanks Dr.

I often have trouble letting go myself. I always refer to this poem:

Letting Go
Author unknown

To “let go” does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.

To “let go” is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization I can’t control another.

To “let go” is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To “let go” is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another,
it’s to make the most of myself.

To “let go” is not to care for,
but to care about.

To “let go” is not to fix,
but to be supportive.

To “let go” is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.

To “let go” is not to be in the middle arranging the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To “let go” is not to be protective,
it’s to permit another to face reality.

To “let go” is not to deny,
but to accept.

To “let go” it not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings, and correct them.

To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my desires
but to take each day as it comes,
and cherish myself in it.

To “let go” is not to criticize and regulate anybody
but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To “let go” is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

To “let go” is to fear less,
and love more.