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Okay so I am 15.

I finally don’t feel weird around boys. I am able to talk to them. The problem is when I am with a group of them that I don’t know and that goes for girls too. I just don’t know what to say. They will talk about everything under the sun and I just say, Oh thats cool, yeah. I know I have a good personality, and I’m not boring. But I overanalyze what I say in conversations or if I contributed enough to it, even with my own sister. I don’t know how to stop it and it’s always on my mind. How do I just change that about myself and become more social/comfertable?

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NikAngelo offline Verified User (8 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

The key is to want to stand out and to actually know about what they’re talking about.

The people I hang out with have known each other for a long time (new school) and I can’t connect to what the jokes they know and their past experiences. If you know the stuff they’re talking about, all it takes is the courage to jump in. If you don’t know what they’re talking about, learn.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (20 minutes after post)

That’s a good point. Haha thank you

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NikAngelo offline Verified User (8 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (28 minutes after post)

No problem.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (32 minutes after post)

I think most people get a little nervous and tense when they are around a group of strangers and have a harder time communicating and being themselves. It’s like having a camera pointed in your face suddenly you are more self-concious. I think a lot of people drink because it allows them to be more open with strangers… but it can be a bad thing too.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (35 minutes after post)

Yeah that’s true.

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