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I’m so lonely.

I seem to have a problem, which is really what I’d like help with, in that, all my friends seem to just hang around until they get boyfriends or girlfriends, respectively. I’m not desperate to get a girlfriend (I’m a lesbian, and pretty at peace with that), but it seems to be the only way I can have people stick around is to date them, thus insuring they won’t leave for a significant other (which they might regardless); that’s not enough of a reason for me to date, I’m sorry. Am I just someone who isn’t worthy of friendship? I am a very loyal, dedicated friend who understands the balance between sensitivity and casualness. What’s wrong with me?

Even my sister (who I was very close with, and who happens to be a lesbian as well) has gotten a girlfriend and up-and-ditched me. I swore that was the answer. I’m not close to anyone anymore. I’ve given up on trying to get close on a personal level with anyone.

I know there might not be much to say about any of this, but might there be something I’m missing? I try, I’m just too tired to try and cultivate healthy relationships anymore until I figure out what my defect is.

Thanks for any advice,
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rebel101 offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 16 #
US | 4 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

ive also given up on almost all my friends and peers cause they dont get me….and i dont know what to do about it…i wish i had the words to help you and i would if i could and knew how…but dont give up dont feel worthless…just keep going on!!!! i know its hard…just try, ok?

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jetmoo offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (18 minutes after post)

when people get into relationships they do tend to sway away from you. it’s a shame that this is happening with alot of your friends. It’s not very fair for them to leave you out completely. but sometimes that’s what happens. sometimes you just have to stick it out. by that i mean deal with being on your own for a while and find others to be friends with instead. alternativly you could tell them how you feel and try to have some days out with your friends. ask them if they would spend some time with you too. there’s nothing wrong with being in a relationship, but you shouldnt get into a relationship until you want to be in one. dont just get into a relationship because everyone else are in one. you can do what you want. there is nothing wrong with you so you dont have to worry about that

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007renegade offline Verified User (8 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (26 minutes after post)

I to know how you feel. I don’t care to date because I care about someone that I can’t be with or close to. I recently had a friend that moved in and we had a great time. she is a lesbian, but then she met someone and moved on. She won’t even respond to my text anymore. We were just friends nothing romantic and had a great time. Now I to am afraid to get close to anyone. I know who you feel. If you’d like to chat anytime let me know I’d like that also. But say don’t blame yourself OK.

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lettucefinger offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (53 minutes after post)

ditto. You just took the words right out my mouth. im in the EXACT same situation. lol not that thats helpful, but at least you knwo your not alone in being alone :) xx

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