Love help: I am a coward and i don’t want to be. - Help.com

You’re not stupid, or pathetic, or an idiot. Believe me, we’ve all been there - going up to someone you like and asking them out is one of the most terrifying things you can do. Just take a deep breath and go for it, and make sure you’ve got friends around to egg you on if you’re tempted to bottle it at the last minute

Dont feel so bad. All girls feel like this. ALL. If you can name one girl who has never felt like this, I’ll fly over to where ever you are and ask him out for you!!! :)

I would say to get over your fear and just ask him out, but I’d be a big hypocrite as I have never had the guts to do that myself! What I would say is, you said that he didn’t know you existed? If that is true (which I doubt), then make yourself known! Get to know his friends and hang out with them when you can, talk to him more, invite him to a party you are going to with a group of people. Find out what he likes and talk to him about it. Just make an effort to get to know him as a friend. Even if you don’t have the guts to ask him out (which I totally understand), just get to know him. He may ask you out, you never know! And if not, maybe after getting to know him, you will finally have the guts to ask him out yourself!!! I hope you do.

Guys also feel like this, point of interest.

The unknown makes most folks shy and unable to do things that they truly want to do. The fear is very real and doesn’t make you a coward. In fact it is one of the most basic emotions humans have. It can be a factor that saves a life. There is no sure fire way to keep it from affecting our decision making process. Asking some one out can be stressful but it can be done. Try a direct approach and keep it simple. Realize that they can’t kill and eat you. And they just might say yes.

I think you think everyone is waaayyy more worried about you and whether you get turned down for a date than they really are… sometimes you hear about a girl asking a guy out and you say HE TURNED HER DOWN??? Is he an idiot and you go ask her out because you know she is looking! It could have a positive effect upon your social standing.

Ah! I have the perfect solution, goto xtrememind.com and download aggressive.mp3
make sure you listen to those binaural beats on a regular basis and youd be aggressive as hell. add to that some good physical fitness training and say hello to a dominant new you

lol! I didnt notice you were a girl! oops! forget the previous suggestion
perhaps youd be better off playin with him a little and makin him come to you
Give him a few nice shy smiles occasionally and decent eye contact when you get a chance. try to talk to him a bit and act as if youre in control.I mean talk to him some then tell him you gotta leave n stuff. he ll be crazy bout you in just a while