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today, i was with my girlfriend. i got there early; she had sent me a text saying to come later but I didn’t get it. she told me the night before she got really drunk and really high. which made me feel weird. so i was all quiet, i get that way when i feel turned off or whatever. she asked what was wrong. i didn’t want to tell her for some reason. then i lied and made up some story about how i was beaten up by this group of people and they made me smoke weed when i was a kid and that’s why i get weird when i hear about it. she said “oh, that’s pretty traumatic”. and i said “yeah”. 20 minutes go by awkwardly, and then i tell her that the story was bull. and she goes “oh… well now i’m confused”. so i just lied to her for no reason. and i’m having trouble forgiving myself for what i just did. jesus christ. anyways, i sound insane, but now i’m seeing her today and i still feel like garbage. what’s your opinion.

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Cristiaan offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

I think you should just be straight forward with her. If she really cares about you, then she will take your words to heart, and she will try to change. But being honest is the best way to be, because they cannot say anything against you. If you are honest, then they cannot say that you have not been. It will keep you at peace with yourself, and you will find the right person, if this particular relationship does not work out for any reason.

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

you should tell her why you really dont like smoking weed and drinking
you made up the story so she would feel bad and stop doing it or coz u were trying to make up a reason why u dont like it coz it seemed to u that u dont have enough reason?

just apologize to her and tell her the truth
worst thing that can happen is that she’ll disagree with you..

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

sigh i guess sometimes its hard to say “im just feeling moody” cos u feel the other person wont get it..and u get into a whole mess by trying to justify it in a way they’ll buy it..but looks like u overshot it there mate. just tell her u dont knwo what came over u, and that ure sorry, and ure feeling weird lately. hows that?

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raotted55 offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

haha, thanks guys. yeah, that’s all I could do. she said don’t worry about it… but i still feel like a tool.

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czeur offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

aww … well at least she’s cool with it. and maybe now u know better than to do it again?:)

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