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I’m in love with my best friend.

I’m not sure how but I just started falling for him. I told him this and he says that he likes me back too but the thing is he has a girlfriend already. he said to me that he doesnt want to split up with her and doesnt want this to come between them, but he doesnt really know what to do about it, and neither do I, I did date him once before but I split up with him, which I deeply regret now. I’m just not sure what to do at all, because his girlfriend is another good friend of mine, and I dont want to hurt either of them or get in the way of the nice thing that they have, but at the same time it hurts when I try to forget my feelings for him.

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raotted55 offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

wait till they break up and then ask him out. if he’s got a girlfriend, he’s taken. that’s it. get over it until they split up. if he decides to split up with her, then that’s his choice.

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czeur offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

i agree with the last poster…i understand this must be hard specially since ure good friends with the girlfriend as well. but sometimes u dont know a good thing till its gone. u just have to wait ur while and hope for the best

goodluck *hugs*

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4 months, 3 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

umm i know it sounds weird but I have a great thing about music healing, would anyone happen to know a song which falls along the line of this post?

btw thank you very much for your words of wisdom above, they are much appreciated

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czeur offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

u know..i always thought November Rain by Guns n’ Roses could be interpreted into a story about giving love a chance with someone youre close to otehrwise. listen to it and see if u agree?

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4 months, 3 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

czeur wrote:
u know..i always thought November Rain by Guns n’ Roses could be interpreted into a story about giving love a chance with someone youre close to otehrwise. listen to it and see if u agree?

wow that is a very powerful song i like it.

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WHATABIGNICKNAM offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
GB | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

are you sure you want him as a lot of the times its, when you have them you dont want them but when you cant have them you do want them

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4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day after post)

WHATABIGNICKNAM wrote:
are you sure you want him as a lot of the times its, when you have them you dont want them but when you cant have them you do want them

I am sure. He has had other girlfriends since me and I havent felt like this then. Right now its like a craving feeling, and I know its bad to crave somebody, but thats honestly how i feel. I feel like its hard to resist sometimes, but I know I have to. I dont want to hurt anybody.

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