My mum and dad are going through a realy rough patch right now and I am really worried. - Help.com

There’s nothing you can do unfortunately. This is between your parents. Hopefully they will settle their dispute and work on their marriage. Every relationship experiences rough patches some time or another. But marriage isn’t infallable obviously. Just sit tight, and hopefully things work out for the both of them.

How about suggesting to them that they go to counseling to see if that will help. it seems to me that they are both stubborn and are not wanting to give anything up. Maybe the fact that your mother had to start sleeping on the couch she got into a habit of watching tv until late at night so now she doesn’t want to break that by getting a new mattress and sleeping in bed at a different time. Maybe the problem is worse than you actually see it. I think you should ask them to go to counseling for the sake of the family.

No I disagree. The child in the family has no obligation to tell their parents what to do. Seriously, unless of course you’re basically an adult. Besides, telling them to get counselling won’t really do much unless they want to, and if they did they would have made it clear to the OP that they were going to. Best thing she can do is, well, nothing… unfortunately.

mayb u should suggest they go on a date night or if they need to spend time together an wont go out then u could go over to a friends an spend the night. Im kinda in the same situation but my parents still share bed an mom tinks dad is havin an affair. Im here if you need to talk. mayb we can help each other

I think your mom needs to change her schedule to adjust to your father’s. There’s no reason for her to stay up all night watching TV and sleeping late and then telling him he can’t go out. Has he tried taking her with him? Sounds like your mom doesn’t want to be around him to me too. But all that pretty much doesn’t matter. You can tell your mom she should be on the same schedule as your dad and she will probably just get mad at you, but maybe it will make her think. I think you can talk to your parents and help them even though they won’t admit it.

Hey children especially a child who is as aware and concerned about the situation (or any situation for that matter) as our precious intelligent Bonkerz here is; should be given ample opportunity to explore finding solutions to problems. Thats how thinkers and problem solvers are made. So Bonkerz I commend you for coming here and asking for help - Hopefully you will find a solution which if presented in a respectable manner to your parents -may just be the glue that will serve to strengthen their relationship.

The problem here seems to be time. Your parents seem to be running on a schedule which doesn’t encourage a healthy relationship to be fostered within.
I believe that counseling is a good solution b/c they might be able to make a plan of their time which will ensure adquate 2gether time…

Your parents also need a holiday together… See if they’ll go somewhere beautiful for a weekend. Or just some alone time…

Hmm about ur dad leaving… I’m glad he stayed because of you - Thats just too sweet. He does care about you and your family and thats great. Your mom and dad need to find some common ground in their relationship…
Oh… Do you guys have a games night? What do you do on Friday Evenings?
A good idea is to play games /& go out together /& build something together.
Try to find something new and refreshing to rejuvenate their relationship…
Cook for them…
Oh and meditate… Thats for you… :)

And just remember that no matter WHAT happens. They Love you. And the status of their relationship doesn’t define you.

Best of Luck!
Much Love,
(Hope this helps!!!)

Sexist? You’re right how dare I side with the father… give me a break.