boyfriend help: My boyfriend and his mom have a weird relatiopship. - Help.com

“rubs his butt and puts her cleavage in his face”?!?!?!

man thats sick!

try to talk to your boyfiend again - if he doesnt realize that that is not a healthy relationship to his mother..

honestly, i’d run from that guy

omg! thats a ridiculous!!!

mother&son should not have any kind of relationship like that!
its perversed&she should be looked into being an abuser!

are you sure its not a bit of bitty :)

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If you’re not #1 in his life, especially after 5 years… then it’s time to walk. Relationships are tough enough as it is without having your boyfriend still connected to his mom by umbilical cord.

What will happen when you guys are on your own and fight? He’ll compare you to her constantly. He’ll run to her with his problems. When she gets jealous or wants his attention, she’ll get it, not you. When you and the mom disagree, guess who he’ll side with?

Run run run away!

Oedipus Complex much?! Wow!

Yeah, after 5 years, your the one that he should have his face in!

Talk to him again!

Ok, thanks for the response guys. I’m glad to know I’m not uduly grossed out. I just don’t know how to bring the topic up without him getting defensive.

Every Family is weird, but that’s boarder-line incest. Not sure what advice to give you because 5 years is a long investment to end. Try taking him to conunceling, tell him that you love him but his relationship with his mom is creeping you out and as you say turns you off.

Incest.

Don’t fall into the fallacy of sunk costs, otherwise known as tossing good money after bad. Know when to cut your losses, grow, and move on.

Well that …. very scary.
I would most differently talk to him and be honest with how you feel because you don’t want to be with someone who creeps you out when ever he’s with his mother. She never let go of her son sadly, and if you do get married with out fixing this problem then it will surely end badly.

I hope to god he sees things your way

there is a lot of good advice here. use it.

That’s hot.

Pepsi wrote:
That’s hot.

your jokin right ???

Come now. Of course I am.

…. yes, yes I am.

Pepsi wrote:
Come now. Of course I am.

…. yes, yes I am.

good :)

Thanks for all the advice. I’ll try talking talking to him again, tho I doubt it’ll help much. I think linuxya hit the nail on the head, after 5 years it’s seems like such a waste - which is of course illogical. I’m glad to know others here think it’s weird too, since they seem to think it’s the normal way to act: I thought my friends and I maybe just had different upbringings. If he doesn’t agree to put at least a bit more space btn him and his mom, I think I’ll have to end it :(

Well, You know, he could be a mama’s boy. If thats the case, you should talk to him and tell him how you feel uncomfortable it makes you feel. If he really loves you, he’ll hear you out. But still remember that family comes first. I’m not saying that you need to compete with his mom but just talk to him.