I broke up with my boyfriend, because my kids dont like him,

kelly_l_johnso

I broke up with my boyfriend, because my kids dont

like him, I have caught him in many lies, and when we argue, he has called me bad names, and texted me mean things. I love him, I hope I did the right thing. He texted me until 3 this morning mean things, then started again at 6 in the morning. His last text was a nice one, and he hasnt texted since. He never talked to my kids, and said he was just shy. We have dated a year now, so you wouldnt think it would be that hard by now. I hope I did the right thing, because now I miss him. He told me it was my loss, not his. I hope it doesnt come down to that. He lives at home, has lost his car, and is not doing great in the money area, so I feel bad for him. Did I do the right thing?

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Dr. Ralph 75 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Maybe. Do your kids need a dad? He wasn’t going to be one. They would have been “your kids”…

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Anonymous #
5 months ago (22 minutes after post)

yes u did.
You are just having a weak moment… remember u had very valid reasons why u broke it off.
He is not in the right state of mind to be in a relationship. Keep him as a friend, and let him sort his issues out

zetzer_ 1 #
Opa Locka, FL, US | 5 months ago (34 minutes after post)

let me tell you something from a “kids” perspective. My parents got divorced and i was extremely pissed at both of them for not staying together for us. But now im happy they did it and they thought of themselves.

the fact that hes telling you these mean things is a little effed up but you have to do what is in your own interest aside from your kids. now if hes an a-hole to them, then thats different.

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kelly_l_johnso 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (40 minutes after post)

Thanks for the replies, they have helped me out

LoneWulf 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

you take care of your kids and your self, your a half descent person who understands that abuse isint a part of a healthy relationship or life for that matter. You dumped an abusive guy who lives with ‘mommy’ has no car and is virtually incapable of taking care of either you or your children and you regret dumping him?
Think about it, you deserve much better.
This low time your in will pass in due time, focus your time and attention on your children and your life with them in time you wont even remember his name let alone the pain that he caused. Also if you keep that up love will again find its way into your life :P good luck

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Dr. Ralph 75 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

Abuse? Because he texted her when he was pi$$ed? Give me a break…

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LoneWulf 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (1 hour, 48 minutes after post)

no calling her bad names when he is mad is abuse.

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Dr. Ralph 75 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (21 hours, 33 minutes after post)

So far I have been abused on this site about a bazillion times… quick someone call the cops!

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LoneWulf 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (1 day, 15 hours after post)

Dr. Ralph wrote:
So far I have been abused on this site about a bazillion times… quick someone call the cops!

lulz thanks that made me laugh, but seriously tho, as she stated he called her names in text and in person.

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kelly_l_johnso 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

You two are funny. I dont know if its abuse or not. He doesnt call me names when we are getting along. Mostly just calls me a fing b…., says to go to hell, hopes God damns me, to f myself, stuff like that. He hasnt hit me or anything like that. Thanks for all your advice, it does really help, and we are still broke up, so we will see. Thanks

Dr. Ralph 75 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (1 day, 18 hours after post)

I think that’s the way everyone breaks up, actually… sounds familiar to me.

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Anonymous #
5 months ago (1 day, 18 hours after post)

He still is outta line.
I hope he doesnt say it infront of the kids.

kelly_l_johnso 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (1 day, 22 hours after post)

he said it once when the kids were in there rooms, they heard a bit. Thanks for all your help

rindesayu_Ayam #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

See he doesn’t want to deal with the equal weight of the relationship. He says its your loss, why else would he care enough to say horrible things to you? He has no right to be cruel to you for actions that you believed to be good and for the best. He is pulling you down, and because he doesn’t want to move forward with you and any expectations that you might have. He is a low male and thats all there is to it. He is a childish brat probably worse than your children.

Also what you have to realize is that there are obstacles in relationship, and the bad parts can be what make people closer you want to know why I say this? Because if a couple can use a bad situation and work together they can move past the obstacles into a greater happiness. your boyfriend does not do his part or support you when things come to these situations. You keep forcing yourself with him and he will not change. He wants to see if he can do horrible things to make you want the good part of him and lay it all on you. It shouldn’t be that way and if it stays that way you will be a very unhappy person.

Tell him how it is. Don’t let him tell you how it is, because he is too immature to do anything that is of any beneficial factor to any of this. Good luck and worry about your children they are what is most important. I would rather have a close loving relationship with my kids than an ******* any day (although I am only 18 and yet to have kids, maybe one day!”

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kelly_l_johnso 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

Funny you replied to me after all this time that i put that up. Thanks. The reason it is funny, is because I had gotten back with him, and broke it off a few hours ago. He is great to me now, but he did too much in the past, and I just fell out of love with him, the lies, my kids not liking him. My youngest is 17, so she will move out soon, and i want this last year to be the greatest. Thank-you so much for writing me. Kelly Also, for an 18 year old, you are very good at making great points, I hope the best for you in the future!!!

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