You don’t always have to choose just one. It depends on where you live and what the laws are :P
Why do you HAVE to get married anyway? Shouldn’t marriage just be something you decide to do because it feels right to marry a particular person, and not a goal you try to fit around people you meet?
Some people believe you’ll find “the one”. I don’t think it’s something you need to worry about. Just enjoy your relationships as they happen, and don’t stress about whether they’re the one you’re meant to be with forever and ever.
but i want to find that one that im going to spend the rest of my life with and have little children!! im just confused on why things are the way they are.i just over analyze things too much =].. and this is one of the subjects that has been buzzing in my mind for quite sometime.. so i just thought i would throw it out there to see if anyone had any answers and what kind of replies i would get! but thanks for ur reply!! =]
that’s good advice from Rain, when you find someone that you really love you won’t worry as much about what it would be like if you met someone better, that thought doesn’t cross your mind. but to be honest, there is no answer to that question, but you’ll reach a point in your life where you have enough informatino and experience to come up with your own solution.
no-one is forcing you to choose 1 to love and marry
you can stay single forever if you wish or you can have multiple boyfriends/girlfriends if they are ok with that..
“keep finding someone that is a little bit more better than the one you love.*
happens all the time..people cheat, break up…
supposedly you know it when you have found that person
a lot of people are mistaken there though..
its just one possibility..
but dont worry that doesnt mean that its impossible to be happy with 1 person for the rest of your life
well i honestly think i have found that one in my life.. i know i care so much for him .. and i love him to death.. i would do anything for him and he would do anything for me.. i have just lost so many people in my life that i often get scared that im going to end up losing him.. and im always afraid that im going to be left alone in this world with noone to love.. *sigh* im just super confused about love right now
emmylou_1990 wrote:
well i honestly think i have found that one in my life.. i know i care so much for him .. and i love him to death.. i would do anything for him and he would do anything for me.. i have just lost so many people in my life that i often get scared that im going to end up losing him.. and im always afraid that im going to be left alone in this world with noone to love.. *sigh* im just super confused about love right now
if it’s any consolation i feel exactly the same way, i’m terrified that i’m missing out, or that i’ll end up alone. i’m fairly convinced i’ll end up alone :p
lostinatoodarkpark wrote:
no-one is forcing you to choose 1 to love and marry
you can stay single forever if you wish or you can have multiple boyfriends/girlfriends if they are ok with that..
“keep finding someone that is a little bit more better than the one you love.*
happens all the time..people cheat, break up…
supposedly you know it when you have found that person
a lot of people are mistaken there though..
its just one possibility..
but dont worry that doesnt mean that its impossible to be happy with 1 person for the rest of your life
i know about the whole cheating thing.. it sucks.. thats also why im scared of losing the one i have right now.. im always scared that there is always someone better and that he will find that someone.. i have never cheated on anyone.. and dont plan to but ive been cheated on 5 times
Jubilee wrote:
emmylou_1990 wrote:
well i honestly think i have found that one in my life.. i know i care so much for him .. and i love him to death.. i would do anything for him and he would do anything for me.. i have just lost so many people in my life that i often get scared that im going to end up losing him.. and im always afraid that im going to be left alone in this world with noone to love.. *sigh* im just super confused about love right now
if it’s any consolation i feel exactly the same way, i’m terrified that i’m missing out, or that i’ll end up alone. i’m fairly convinced i’ll end up alone :p
thanks =] im glad someone out there feels the same way.. there are many time when i think im the only one who constantly worries myself about being alone and what not…
Love’s a super-confusing thing if you stop to think about it. The trick is not to.
nope, i am utterly convinced of it, regardless of what anyone says i just sort of feel like i know it. i’m not great at handling relationships, even though i love being in them
Dorian wrote:
Love’s a super-confusing thing if you stop to think about it. The trick is not to.
yea.. but for someone like me that over analyzing EVERYTHING its hard not to think about it constantly.. i honestly try not to think about it .. but it never works.. i always end up thinking about it.. or some other unanswered questions that ill never know the answer to until i die lol
Jubilee wrote:
nope, i am utterly convinced of it, regardless of what anyone says i just sort of feel like i know it. i’m not great at handling relationships, even though i love being in them
i know how u feel!
emmylou_1990 wrote:
Dorian wrote:
Love’s a super-confusing thing if you stop to think about it. The trick is not to.
yea.. but for someone like me that over analyzing EVERYTHING its hard not to think about it constantly.. i honestly try not to think about it .. but it never works.. i always end up thinking about it.. or some other unanswered questions that ill never know the answer to until i die lol
we’re frighteningly similar…
Jubilee wrote:
emmylou_1990 wrote:
Dorian wrote:
Love’s a super-confusing thing if you stop to think about it. The trick is not to.
yea.. but for someone like me that over analyzing EVERYTHING its hard not to think about it constantly.. i honestly try not to think about it .. but it never works.. i always end up thinking about it.. or some other unanswered questions that ill never know the answer to until i die lol
we’re frighteningly similar…
lol its always fun to find someone frighteningly similar
it’s deifinately comforting!
Its a social norm that we marry one person for life.
Imagine though you marry a person you swear you love and he loves you too, you meet someone who is “better” and leave this man who loves you. How would that make the man feel? Surely if you loved that man you would not have lead him on in that way knowing you would jump ship for the next big thing when he came along thus breaking his heart?
Joshy woshy Poshy wrote:
Its a social norm that we marry one person for life.
Imagine though you marry a person you swear you love and he loves you too, you meet someone who is “better” and leave this man who loves you. How would that make the man feel? Surely if you loved that man you would not have lead him on in that way knowing you would jump ship for the next big thing when he came along thus breaking his heart?
.. not helping!! but thanks =] lol
Because you are not God to love everybody. And when you love somebody this doesn’t mean you consider him/her as best, this means you choosed that person to share soul and it’s your choice. once you are in love for real, it’s not possible to get that feeling out of heart. when you hear someone says “i loved her/him” this means that the person have never loved anyone.
emmylou_1990 wrote:
i know about the whole cheating thing.. it sucks.. thats also why im scared of losing the one i have right now.. im always scared that there is always someone better and that he will find that someone.. i have never cheated on anyone.. and dont plan to but ive been cheated on 5 times
ow, seems like you are picking the wrong guys
and also look at the postive side..so many people.. there gotta be one somewhere who is worth your love and who will love you just as much
lostinatoodarkpark wrote:
emmylou_1990 wrote:
i know about the whole cheating thing.. it sucks.. thats also why im scared of losing the one i have right now.. im always scared that there is always someone better and that he will find that someone.. i have never cheated on anyone.. and dont plan to but ive been cheated on 5 times
ow, seems like you are picking the wrong guys
and also look at the postive side..so many people.. there gotta be one somewhere who is worth your love and who will love you just as much
Yea.. Indiana seems to have those types of guys!
weasel wrote:
It seems as though this is more of a philosophical question. If your interested in a sound, objective, and scientific explanation then you should read about Evolutionary Psychology.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evolutio…
really im looking for any explanation. lol.. thanks =]
Well the Bible says that you are suposed to mary once. If you do get a divorce, your not suposed to get married again but you can date people. But I guarantee that you will find THE ONE! God will make sure to put him in your path. :o)
Yeah my friend that’s a good question.
if you find the right one ou dont thing if i search for someone that is much better..if you really love someone you stuck with it…
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When you meet “the one” you will know because you will not even see other guys. Trust me
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