I need help dealing with my LDR…

Katiebug637

I need help dealing with my LDR…

We’ve been together for 2 years but recently I had to move back to my country to finish my studies…we are an ocean apart and he calls me every single day, as well as sends me emails regularly and we webcam chat with each other as well. All I do is study, work and go home…I am just focused on finishing everything fast so I can be back with my bf again. I know it’s unrealistic to expect him to be home every single day right after work and talk to me for hours (although he does most days) but I am having trouble dealing with him going out with his friends when he does go out. I find myself worrying I might lose him, or he’ll meet another girl and leave me, or he’ll lose interest in me eventually for no reason. He is a very social guy and when he goes out, it is usually with his guy friends and their girlfriends. He told me if I was with him of course he would bring me along too, but I cant expect him to just stay home and wait for me until I come back. He needs to live his life as well. That makes total sense right?

This past week he went to a friend’s house and they had a bbq..there were 3 girls there, all of whom came with their boyfriends who were friends of my bf. He took pictures with his iphone and showed them to me…one girl had a perfect body and i felt a stab of jealousy in me. I am jealous that although these girls came with their bf, they got to see my bf walking, talking, smiling and having fun…and i couldn’t cus i’m so far away. Also seeing these girls with their perfect bodies and pretty faces makes me so insecure that my bf might think that they are hot and that he can get a better girl like that instead of being with me. I told my bf that i thought one of the girl has a hot body…and he told me ” don’t worry, i saw her in a bikini and your body is 10 times better” that made me so jealous cus i realized that besides just attending the bbq…the house had a pool and it was also a pool party…in which he was swimming and these 3 girls were in bikinis in front of him..granted they already had bf and i’m sure my bf would never cheat on me…

Yet i cant seem to shake the feeling of anxiousness out of my system…can you please advice me on how to get over this rediculous feeling?

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spacilliiiaaaz #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Hi–

Yeah, your feeling isn’t “ridiculous”, but it’s better if you weren;t in such a state of anxiety.
You already have studies to concentrate on.

How long will you be apart from your BF?

IF you guys were together for 2 years and your studies is just temporary and he calls you and emails you every day, then you are lucky and you have a good guy.

And don’t worry, you are so so pretty. He knows what a catch he has in you and he doesn’t want to lose you.

Let him be social and have fun, since if you love him, you’d want him to be happy, right?

Don’t be so sad and pushy becuase if you are like that, you will push him away.

All this anxiety stems from your insecurities about yourself. If you were more secure about yourself, then you wouldn’t feel like your BF was going to jump on the first girl in a bikini he sees.

Relax. And good luck in school.

3 Dave

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Katiebug637 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 48 minutes after post)

Hi Dave

Thanks so much for your words :) I will take them all into mind when dealing with future similar situations as I’m sure this is not the last event that would bother me. We will be apart until at least the first couple months of 2010. I am really counting the days to put this nightmare behind me.

lis 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (3 weeks, 2 days after post)

Your bf is crazy about you - that is clear from his actions! Be confident in yourself and him - and things will be great. http://www.coupledtogether.com/blog/?… has a list of things to appreciate about your LDR. I hope things are going well for you :)

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