thanks man (if you’re a girl, my bad). I know it’ll get better, but I don’t want it to. i don’t wanna stop thinking about him. Right now, I just want him to hold me and tell me everythings gonna be ok. But that’s obviously never happening. So yeah.
SingerInPurple invited 2 users to read this post 4 months, 3 weeks ago.
It wont be like this forever.
Break ups are **** though. I will give you that. They are pure **** and they make you nutty.
But yes - time helps. It just takes it so **** long to kick in.
But I fell for this one…usually I just like the guy, we break up, and we move on…but this guy was more like a best friend…and I just feel empty. Omg! I’m so hungry but I can’t eat anything.
Just remember - you can chalk a lot of it up to separation anxiety.
but I’ve been away for him from a month…I slept perfectly all 27..well 24 days. I couldn’t really sleep that well the last couple of nights
SingerInPurple wrote:
But I fell for this one…usually I just like the guy, we break up, and we move on…but this guy was more like a best friend…and I just feel empty. Omg! I’m so hungry but I can’t eat anything.
Yeah usually the good ones are good friends too. I’m telling you - its ****.
usurper wrote:
SingerInPurple wrote:
But I fell for this one…usually I just like the guy, we break up, and we move on…but this guy was more like a best friend…and I just feel empty. Omg! I’m so hungry but I can’t eat anything.
Yeah usually the good ones are good friends too. I’m telling you - its ****.
:( I wanna stay friends with him, but I don’t know if I can…and I just want to be with him. No matter how much this has hurt me. I’m an idiot.
SingerInPurple wrote:
but I’ve been away for him from a month…I slept perfectly all 27..well 24 days. I couldn’t really sleep that well the last couple of nights
Yeah cause you’re probably remembering all the good old times and how great things were, and im sure they were very great.
But that doesn’t change how things are NOW. What they turned into counts just as much as what they were - by that I mean that even though you had fantastic times, it still doesn’t change what it turned into and it turned into a break up for a reason.
People always forget to remember that good things can come from a break up. Think about all the things you compromised in your life to make things work (and every relationship needs some compromise) well now you get to take all that **** back. You can be whoever you want to be, do whatever you want to do and you dont have to worry about compromising yourself for anyone. That my friend is what they call freedom.
lol, I don’t want my freedom. I want him.
I know I’m being stubborn as hell, but this guy is just…was? just too important to me. All the compromises I made were worth it. I don’t want them back. Ok, I’ve decided I’ll be his friend. I can do it. I hope. Just not now.
Ok, I can’t talk about this. It hurts too frickin much. I’m gonna go watch tv.
SingerInPurple wrote:
Ok, I can’t talk about this. It hurts too frickin much. I’m gonna go watch tv.
I think its a perfect remedy. Get a TV show on DVD and watch it. It helped me when I was going through what you’re going through. 5 seasons of a show - passes time and helps you think.
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Keep yourself busy and try to eat. Im sure time will heal I don’t know how you broke up but if it was him then his loss!! And if you are gonna still be friends show him what he’s missing don’t let him know your hurting! I don’t know if i’m helping but thats how I would react x
singer you know i was exactly where you are a year ago. Look at me. I’m doing fine now and you will be too. Yes, it will hurt for an extremely long time and you’re just going to keep thinking about it. In all honesty it took me a complete change in scenery and discovering a passion in something I’ve always had to keep myself preoccupied in order to move on. Also what helped was realizing how much better off I was without her, in time you will discover this for yourself as you build your own life. It’s going to be okay, I promise, and that’s not a lie, plus I don’t break promises.
Not sure how i ended up here. From reading your posts I can tell that you take events to heart. You and I are a lot alike and the truth is that it is going to hurt forever…. The connection was deep. Over time you will think about him less and less and the pain will become a lot less intense. The best part is that there is ALWAYS someone out there you are more compatible with. You’ll some guy go out, talk until 2 for 7 straight nights and form a much deeper connection and realize this other guy wasn’t the beez kneez after all. What made this guy so special? Maybe you’ve built him up so much in your mind? Easy for me to say i suppose, guys are just ugly girls to me. How long were you two together??
There’s always someone more interesting out there. Maybe the next guy you meet will be the real deal and even more interesting. Maybe his favorite hobbies will be long walks on the beach and freelance stripping on the holidays…
Remember always, when you’re busying yourself, concentrating on you, getting stronger, making yourself a better person — that it’s when you least expect it that the right person comes along.
i want to use some of your words as lyrics in a song with your permission of course..
turnthismothaou wrote:
Not sure how i ended up here. From reading your posts I can tell that you take events to heart. You and I are a lot alike and the truth is that it is going to hurt forever…. The connection was deep. Over time you will think about him less and less and the pain will become a lot less intense. The best part is that there is ALWAYS someone out there you are more compatible with. You’ll some guy go out, talk until 2 for 7 straight nights and form a much deeper connection and realize this other guy wasn’t the beez kneez after all. What made this guy so special? Maybe you’ve built him up so much in your mind? Easy for me to say i suppose, guys are just ugly girls to me. How long were you two together??
There’s always someone more interesting out there. Maybe the next guy you meet will be the real deal and even more interesting. Maybe his favorite hobbies will be long walks on the beach and freelance stripping on the holidays…
Remember always, when you’re busying yourself, concentrating on you, getting stronger, making yourself a better person — that it’s when you least expect it that the right person comes along.
i want to use some of your words as lyrics in a song with your permission of course..
permission granted…will I be able to read the lyrics anytime soon? And I was with him only for four months, but I feel like I’m losing a best friend. Like seriously. I can’t even begin to describe the pain I felt the first day…I’m really good at blocking stuff out though, so it went away after the third day. I tend to repress things that get me upset, but if I do that, I usually can’t feel anything anymore. ugh. I hate this. I’ll get over him. But I don’t want to.
Tzubake! I’m so glad you replied. Sometimes I pretend everything is ok…and I fake that I’m happy, and sometimes I can go hours without thinking about him….but he was just so sweet. I think my life was better with him in it though…he kinda understood stuff more than anyone else I’ve known. You know what the funny thing was? I was reading this book called eclipse right before we broke up when I was coming back to the USA on a plane, and I got to the part where the girl, Bella has to choose between 2 people she loves, and when she had to say goodbye to the guy she loved, I started to cry. I don’t know why…I never cry. But I did. I think I knew that we were gonna break up.
I’m much better now…I force myself not to think about it. So yeah. I lost a best friend…but I wanna stay friends with him…how should I go about this?
It’s not so much about pretending everything is okay. You hurt. It’s as simple as that and it will go away in time as you realize your lives aren’t one anymore, but two separate entities. I went through that. Most times I was okay, but then once the night time came or certain time periods I would just crash, but that’s okay, it’s normal. Eventually it will come less frequently, but I’m not saying it’s going to disappear completely. Just be sure you have at least one person who you can completely confine in and who can always be there to hear you talk and just listen to absolutely everything you need to get off your mind. Believe me, it helps so much. No matter how annoying I knew I was, my best friend was always there and willing to listen to absolutely everything and to just let me get everything off my mind. Of course I would think of the past and it would upset me, but she would make me talk about those things anyway because its liberating to remember everything good about what once was. Yes you broke up, but there’s nothing saying you can’t be grateful for a nastolgic relationship. You also have to remember why you guys broke up. Remember that you guys are broken up and take time for yourself and like everyone’s been suggesting take time to do things that you seemed to put off another day. Me? I started playing the guitar because I always wanted to and now I’m actually pretty good at it haha. I also started drawing and keeping a dream journal of specific scenes in my dream I wanted to draw. I’ve also been painting, reading, cooking and just about everything I’ve always put off to spend time with her. You broke up around the same time as me, I didn’t start to pretty much “get better” until probably mid-October.. maybe a little earlier or a little later.. but yeah..
As for being friends.. I really don’t know what to tell you. That whole situation didn’t really work out for me and my ex. She started to become ridiculously parinoid about really dumb things and I’m sure it was becuase of the things her new internet identity thief boyfriend was telling her like “you cant be friends with your ex.” She started getting mad and angry at me for no reason and to this day, I enrage her to no end even though she was the one that cheated on me, and I’ve yet to do anything to her or even do anything to get back at her, I have no idea where her mind is. I lost my best friend when her and I broke up as well and I know how lonely it is, but it will get easier if you find someone else to confine in, friend, family, sibling, it will get easier. I know you want to stay friends with him.. but it really is up to him too. It takes two to tango as they say. If you’re serious about it, and you two are on speaking terms, bring it up. Nothing much else that you can do about it.
Oh joy. I don’t even know what to say. I’ll just give him space. I know he wants it. He said “maybe in september” to me when he called to break up with me, and I think that’s why I’m so upset. I just wanted a clean break…and he just like screwed it up. I’ve always wanted to play the guitar…I think I will. And thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it. He said he wanted to be friends with me like 3 times…but idk if he was serious or not. I just don’t know anymore.
Thankx..Maybe you can hear the song, it might take me a week to record it just don’t take all the royalties when it’s ginormously huge. Titled Valley Jewel for now. I’ll keep you posted. Crazy how a broken heart can turn your stomach in knots. That’s it, I’m changing it from “broken heart” to “broken stomach, feels like someone stepped on it with baseball cleets” because I want to. world get ready
turnthismothaou wrote:
Thankx..Maybe you can hear the song, it might take me a week to record it just don’t take all the royalties when it’s ginormously huge. Titled Valley Jewel for now. I’ll keep you posted. Crazy how a broken heart can turn your stomach in knots. That’s it, I’m changing it from “broken heart” to “broken stomach, feels like someone stepped on it with baseball cleets” because I want to. world get ready
“it’s funny how a broken heart can turn into your favorite song”. If your song gets famous, I’ll excpect some recognition ;) lol
Wow. If I didn’t love him….then why does it hurt so much? like everytime I think of him…there’s just like this pain.
i swear thats from twilight.
hat wrote:
i swear thats from twilight.
I swear, my life is like Bella Swan! (except without the vampires and werewolfs). haha, but I didn’t directly quote it. I promise. It just hurts like a hell, that’s all.
Everything is going to be okay :)
I promise
You met him right?
So who’s to say you won’t meet another guy like that
You will, or you can track me down and beat me up
I’m sorry that it hurts, it will for a while
But someone else is going to come along that you’ll be even happier with
Because with the bad days come the best
My best wishes for you
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Cleargangsta wrote:
Everything is going to be okay :)
I promise
You met him right?
So who’s to say you won’t meet another guy like that
You will, or you can track me down and beat me up
I’m sorry that it hurts, it will for a while
But someone else is going to come along that you’ll be even happier with
Because with the bad days come the best
My best wishes for you
Thank you, that means a lot to me. I just hope I’ll get better. I hate him. but I can’t. AAHHHH! What the heck is wrong with me??? :(
alexandru_email_12 wrote:
^ what happened?
he broke up with me. He broke my already broken heart. I hate that I love him. I do love him…I’m not sure if I’m in love with him. I hope he doesn’t hurt as much as I do.
^ why he broke up with you?
alexandru_email_12 wrote:
^ why he broke up with you?
I’d been away for a month…and I guess we kinda grew apart, and he said he didn’t feel the same way…but you know the weird thing? He sent me a video the night before, and he was like “I’m so excited to see you! And he sang me a song” and yeah. He told me he really liked me and he missed me a lot. Then he was just like “I think we should take a break” the next day. I would have understood if he’d have done it after we met eachother..but he didn’t even give it a chance, so did he even like me? Was he just lying to me the entire time? ugh. I just want to ask him all these questions, but I don’t want to bother him.
^ ask him all the questions. You know, guys could be jerks without really wanting it. Is he your first love? You know, mostly when a guy really like a girl he does not know what to do, they don’t know how to handle the pressure and mostly they do things they don’t want to do - they don’t want to hurt her..
alexandru_email_12 wrote:
^ ask him all the questions. You know, guys could be jerks without really wanting it. Is he your first love? You know, mostly when a guy really like a girl he does not know what to do, they don’t know how to handle the pressure and mostly they do things they don’t want to do - they don’t want to hurt her..
I just can’t ask him. I just can’t. He gives me vague answers. maybe he found another girl…it’s fine. Whatever makes him happy.
^ let me tell you a secret. It remains between us and the readers, it may help you,or not. When that girl (I’ve been writing in my post) ask me to go to the seaside, altough I wanted to, I told her no. She ask me to kiss her, I say I would not. You know why? Because I liked her, and I was afraid to say yes. Someone we deal with vague answers because we are to in love with the girl. Just my thoughts:)
alexandru_email_12 wrote:
^ let me tell you a secret. It remains between us and the readers, it may help you,or not. When that girl (I’ve been writing in my post) ask me to go to the seaside, altough I wanted to, I told her no. She ask me to kiss her, I say I would not. You know why? Because I liked her, and I was afraid to say yes. Someone we deal with vague answers because we are to in love with the girl. Just my thoughts:)
I can’t do anything though. He obviously doesn’t want me.
But that’s a cute story too. I don’t get guys sometimes…but I guess you have your reasons. I hope you and your girl are very happy together.
i’ve been in your shoes …time heals the soreness but you’ll never forget.
drewberryfan2 wrote:
i’ve been in your shoes …time heals the soreness but you’ll never forget.
I don’t want to.
Your lovely. I am a complete mess and you have taken the time to talk to me and try to help, you dont know how much I appreciate that.
Let me explain something…
I am currently living at my ex’s house… he got me out my home during my a levels as he saw my step dad about to hurt me. He is the only person who knows every detail of my past, it took me sooo long to trust him. But still I pushed him away and killed our relationship due to my insecurities. We were together two years, I miscarriaged our baby (it wasnt planned and we r so young, but when you love someone so much & loose their child its murder)I still have to sleep in the same single bed as him… he is out now… and out most nights on the pull and comes in the next day… then one in a while things will be like normal and we will make love… only for him to go out again and leave me indoors. He will probably walk in again all smiling from another night out soon.. I cant bare having to se his face after, but I know he is happy.
What I am trying to say is I cant compare to the unique bond u both shared, but right in this moment in time I know what it is like to love someone who completely, and have lost them. It is like mourning. *cuddles* time is all you can give yourself.
Hang on x
Time will never heal, time just gives you the distance that in time can help you get on with the little things in life.
Take it as a lesson, a treasure, someone that made you who you are today. Its stupid I know but I just thought of the saying if you love someone let them go… and if they come back to you in time, the love was meant to be. I hope that happens for you x
Thank you luna, you’re a great girl. I hope you find a great guy, and I can’t even imagine what it was like for you to have a miscarrage, but you got through that. Wow, you must be really strong. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my problem…ha, everything seems like the end of the world when you’re young. You should move out of your ex’s house…it might help you move on, if that’s what you want to do. I hope you find happiness luna rose. Be happy
luna.rosa wrote:
Time will never heal, time just gives you the distance that in time can help you get on with the little things in life.
Take it as a lesson, a treasure, someone that made you who you are today. Its stupid I know but I just thought of the saying if you love someone let them go… and if they come back to you in time, the love was meant to be. I hope that happens for you x
That’s what I say to myself. Sometimes you just have to let go of the ones you love. Really, all I want is for him to be happy. Maybe he’ll wake up one day and be like “wow, I really miss that girl” and I’ll be there for him. But I don’t know if I can be more than a friend to him :P But back to you. You should go do something fun! What time is it in England? like 5am or something? Go sleep and when you wake up do something fun!
What you gotta ask this dude some questions? No wonder it hurts, there’s many open ended questions and no closure. You gotta write a letter. No “he needs space” namby pamby girly logic. You realize that that is the equivalent of -i’m going to sulk and not fight for what I want, right? try this sentence..
I’m confused by the way our relationship ended, do YOU really want this to be over? -YOU (He will understand this sentence :) I know, I did
the only cure for love is love.
turnthismothaou wrote:
What you gotta ask this dude some questions? No wonder it hurts, there’s many open ended questions and no closure. You gotta write a letter. No “he needs space” namby pamby girly logic. You realize that that is the equivalent of -i’m going to sulk and not fight for what I want, right? try this sentence..
I’m confused by the way our relationship ended, do YOU really want this to be over? -YOU (He will understand this sentence :) I know, I did
lol, I’m just too polite. And I kinda did ask him that question, but all he could say was “I just know it wouldn’t work. I’m so sorry. It hurts me too” And I’m so sure there’s something he’s not telling me, so I’m not gonna push him.
hat wrote:
the only cure for love is love.
I don’t want anymore. It’s intoxicating.
Guess what?!!! SINGER FOUND TWO GREAT GUYS!! I talked with my friend from when I was like 4 on the phone for like 2 and a half hours, and it didn’t even hurt when I talked about my ex. This guy really knows how to cheer me up. Just like Snar. I don’t know if Snar will read this, but if you ever read this, I just want to let you know that you’re the coolest guy ever. Seriously, your words are beautiful, and I want you to be happy because you’re a beautiful person. You’re awesome.
Thank you all so much for your help! I loved your advice and I appreciate ur help! Thank you all agan. I hope the karma finds its way back to all of you :)
^ I need to speak with a friend of mine, from when I was little, but I’m afraid. She was my best friend for 15 years, and no we have not talk for 6-7 years :(
alexandru_email_12 wrote:
^ I need to speak with a friend of mine, from when I was little, but I’m afraid. She was my best friend for 15 years, and no we have not talk for 6-7 years :(
That’s what it was like with me too…but then I was talking to him through chat, and then he was like “can I call you?” and I was like “sure”. and then it was just a lot of fun. I miss the guy.
^my friend is a neighboor of mine, 2 houses away. She’s almost to marry with a guy and for a couple of years we have not talk, altough just to many years we were together all the day long. I don’t know, I guess she does not want to talk to me either..
SingerInPurple wrote:
Guess what?!!! SINGER FOUND TWO GREAT GUYS!! I talked with my friend from when I was like 4 on the phone for like 2 and a half hours, and it didn’t even hurt when I talked about my ex. This guy really knows how to cheer me up. Just like Snar. I don’t know if Snar will read this, but if you ever read this, I just want to let you know that you’re the coolest guy ever. Seriously, your words are beautiful, and I want you to be happy because you’re a beautiful person. You’re awesome.
Thank you all so much for your help! I loved your advice and I appreciate ur help! Thank you all agan. I hope the karma finds its way back to all of you :)
Aww! You’ll bring out the emotional snar in me ! Careful! Haha. But honestly you have no idea how happy it makes me if I can help you through these tough times, I know how much it hurts. I still hurt. But singer you are the beautiful person! So stay smiling, because the world will have no choice but to return your smile. :)
alexandru_email_12 wrote:
^my friend is a neighboor of mine, 2 houses away. She’s almost to marry with a guy and for a couple of years we have not talk, altough just to many years we were together all the day long. I don’t know, I guess she does not want to talk to me either..
I just watched an episode of Ghost Whisperer on tv, and they were talking about forgiveness…and I think you should at least talk things through with her and make peace. People tend to regret not doing such things later on in life
And Snar, all I have to say is you’re awesome :)
So I was talking to someone last night, (I actually found four guys lol) and he basically changed my outlook on life. So I’ll stop repressing the pain, and I’ll just cry and mourn and be sad. But for now, I’m gonna close this post. I guess it’s time for me to close this chapter…but you never know. Maybe it’ll open again someday. haha, Goodbye. Thank you all soooo much for everything. You’re all amazing.
Singer wrote:
So I was talking to someone last night, (I actually found four guys lol) and he basically changed my outlook on life. So I’ll stop repressing the pain, and I’ll just cry and mourn and be sad. But for now, I’m gonna close this post. I guess it’s time for me to close this chapter…but you never know. Maybe it’ll open again someday. haha, Goodbye. Thank you all soooo much for everything. You’re all amazing.
That’s basically how I got over it :) good luck singer.. it’ll get better and I’m not the only one who’s said it so it must be true.
Tzubake wrote:
Singer wrote:
So I was talking to someone last night, (I actually found four guys lol) and he basically changed my outlook on life. So I’ll stop repressing the pain, and I’ll just cry and mourn and be sad. But for now, I’m gonna close this post. I guess it’s time for me to close this chapter…but you never know. Maybe it’ll open again someday. haha, Goodbye. Thank you all soooo much for everything. You’re all amazing.
That’s basically how I got over it :) good luck singer.. it’ll get better and I’m not the only one who’s said it so it must be true.
You’re awesome Tzubake. Thank you for being so great.
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It hurts like hell. It’s funny how people search for it so much and even though it’s the best thing when you’re experiencing it, it turns into the most painful thing on the frickin planet when you break up with someone you love.
I’m gonna miss the way his eyes change color every day. I’m gonna miss the way he used to look at me and the way his hand felt shaped around mine. I’ll miss his insanely long eyelashes and the green shock of his eyes against his hair.
I don’t think I’ll be able to be friends with him either…I just love him too much to control my emotions, and everytime I look at a picture of him…as much as I want to, I can’t look away.
I don’t know when I last ate and I can’t even sleep at night because it hurts too much.
I just hope he’s happy right now. I don’t want to be with anyone but him right now. I want to disappear
Can someone just lie to me and tell me that everything is gonna be ok?
You know what the worst part is? They say you never stop loving your first love, and he was…is mine.
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