from 1/10 how much do you still like/love your x?
I have no interest in her whatsoever, that’s why I don’t get why I still react this way to her.
mmm, have you had any other female friends since?
is your x with someone?
when you say she slagged your friends of,
is she one to humiliate you infront of your friends?
is she nasty, kind of show off??
do you feel unworthy in her prescence??
Heck yes, I’ve had a few relationships and plenty of female friends since then. Last I heard she was with someone but they could well have split since then.
I know she was badmouthing me to a couple of people after we fell out, but that’s to be expected. She doesn’t really show off, but she can be very bitchy. None of this bothers me - I don’t think I’m neccessarily better than her but I’m certainly no worse. My dad once described her as “a person who uses people”, which I think sums her up quite well.
glad to hear it :)
well she certainly sounds a nasty piece of work…
if none of this bothers you tho, im flumaxed why you feel so nervous around her :/
have you ever felt this way about anyone before
or is it just her that makes you feel nervous!
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No, it’s just her. In fairness to her, I shouldn mention that everything I know about her is at least 18 months out of date, and she might be a reformed character these days, but I doubt it.
mm, well i suppose you should give anyone the benefit of the doubt hun :)
also in my opinion the times we hate going out the most
turns out to be the best time we ever had…
strange how that works isnt it, you absolutely dread going to a party
then your really glad you did, cause you have a blast! :)
my advice, go with the flow bby..
youve got nothing to be scared of, at the end of the day
the past is the past..
swallow them spiders&have a ball! :)
Your mistake was in sending an email to apologize. Why did you do that? Are you submitting to guilt? Did she not say those things about your friends? That, my friend, is where it all started. You should have held your ground and seen her for what she was, a trashing talking moron with no respect for you or your friends. Go to the party with your head held high and have fun. Don’t dwell on this. The more you dwell, the more you’ll psych yourself up for failure and intimidation. Never let anyone have a hold on you like that. Never!
I sent the email because I knew I’d be running into her at various points (events like this) in the future and I figured it was worth saving myself the potential aggro. I should have handled it differently than I did, but that’s hindsight born of experience. Believe me, I’m not submitting to anything. I’ve seen this girl for what she is and she has no hold over me, I’m just trying to work out why I get this feeling when I see her. It makes no sense.
I read that she scares you. Why in the world would this girl scare you unless you seen the dark side of her and you know what she is capable of. Yea, have you seen her dark side?
Hmm, that could be it. The worst I’ve ever heard of her doing is getting massively control-freaky with one of my friends who was living with her a couple of years ago. She pretty much went crazy, but as far as I know she’s never been violent with anyone.
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Hmm, that could be it. The worst I’ve ever heard of her doing is getting massively control-freaky with one of my friends who was living with her a couple of years ago. She pretty much went crazy, but as far as I know she’s never been violent with anyone.
She’s never been violent with anyone…..You Know? She may have gotten violent with someone you don’t know and your instincts are WARNING you! But still go to the party. Have fun, and enjoy yourself immensely.
I don’t quite think that’s what it is personally. It fairly normal to feel like that. Whatever she means to you now, she clearly meant a hell of a lot once, and it’s a really big thing to find yourself in a room with them over a year after all the bad stuff happened.
What you feel is completely cool. Go to this party, keep yourself strong. Reprosent yourself as the strong person you are, and not for her, but for you. If she talks to you, talk back. Just be polite and everything you are, don’t allow having a past source irrationality in you.
It’ll be cool - you’ll have a good time, and next time you won’t be so worried to be at the same place / same time as her. :)
Have fun!
Peace
x
Cheers guys, I’ll be cool :)
my adivice for you is if she goes to the party. try to ask her why she was trash-talking to you
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Nah, it was years ago - I don’t want to be the one to drag it all up again.
Be cool like nothing ever happened. My advice, if only I could stick to it!
Okay.. smile.
You were right in sending her the email. And after a lot happens with someone, it’s hard to ever be friendly or nice or comfortable around them again. Just take it in stride. Don’t stop your life or avoid places you think she might be. There will be other people at that party to have fun with and to talk to. you seem like a nice enough guy.
Have a good time :)
Go to the party, look fantastic, be above all her bitchyness, make small talk, don’t mention it and have a fantastic time!!
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Go to the party, look fantastic, be above all her bitchyness, make small talk, don’t mention it and have a fantastic time!!
Agree with j! Just go and enjoy yourself, there will be plenty of people to talk to and you can avoid her or talk to her. Do whatever makes you happy! Just have fun!
Will do guys! Many thanks :)
Well, the party was last night and she wasn’t even there! Turns out she was so desperate not to run into me that she decided to stay away. Problem solved then!
Hope you had a wonderful time!
I did actually - saw a whole bunch of old friends who I haven’t seen in ages. It was a really good night :)
Glad to hear someone is having a good time! Getting together with “old friends” can be the best!
evansent:)
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