Love help: How can I avoid a guy who wants to see me? - Help.com

Well if it’s an intimate concert and you’re all going you probably will end up running into this guy. Why are you so keen for your best friend not to see him?

you could tell this guy that you are ill and not going so that he doesn’t look for you and he may not recognise you when you are there. Then tell him that you want to see him and decide somewhere to meet at a later date.

I am also curious as to why you don’t want you best friend to meet him?

Tell him the truth as you have nothing to hide.. lying is for weak people and anyway most of the cases if you lied will end up looking like a total shmak.
Just tell the guy you need some time with your friend and he will understand, but don’t go banana’s if you so him with another lady.

A lot of stuff has happened between me and the guy, and I’ve told my friend everything, and she’s basically concluded he’s a really bad guy. I agree too, but that’s besides the point.
I don’t want her involved in any way with him.

If he sees me there, he’ll want to stay with me, and I don’t want him ruining our night out.

The thing is, how do I cope with trying to forget about him on the night? I don’t know if he’ll recognise me, because he’s only seen a couple of photos of me, not in real life.

You said you wanted to see him too, but not when your friend is there. Why do you want to see him at all if he’s such a bad guy?

Because I want to meet him in real life, but that’s besides the point.

Girl I think you either have a crush on that guy and your confused about your relation with him, or your dating another guy and don’t want to lose both !!!

Either way i highly suggest saying the truth, nothing but the truth, to make it stop at that time, otherwise this will go on…

Ps. After reading that you know that this guy is bad and you still want to date him i guess i have heard it all now, and now i know why some girls get abused…

I don’t want to date him, I just want to meet him. We’re just friends.
The point is I don’t want to run into him when I’m with my friend, and I’m trying to figure out how to avoid him at that event, because I will definitely see him there.

You’re friends, but you agree with your best friend that he’s a really bad guy? How does that work?

It just does I guess. Maybe friends is a bad word. We’re friendly. Nothing more.

Well, like I said earlier, if it’s an intimate gig you’re not going to be able to avoid him. If he’s a really bad guy and you don’t want to spend time with him I don’t understand what the problem is with you just telling him to leave you two alone if he starts hanging round you?

Because I don’t want him to approach us at all. My best friend hasn’t seen him and I don’t want her ever to. I promised myself that.

Well you can’t stop him approaching you if you’re all there, unless you can convine him in advance to stay away from you.

If I tell him I’m going, he’ll look for me.

The point is he might not exactly know what I look like, he’s seen a few photos only. So I’m hoping I can avoid him.

That sounds like your only real hope here. Personally I still don’t get why it’s such a big deal if he comes over to you and you tell him to get lost. Why are you so afraid of your best friend seeing him?

Mainly because I promised I’d never involve her with him because he’s scum.

So if he comes up to you, tell him to do one. You don’t have to involve her at all.

To do one? I really don’t want her to see him at all.

Do you think if I tell her and she doesn’t mind if I’m constantly saying, umm, we have to move away from this spot, etc. she wouldn’t mind? She has no idea what he looks like though.

Can’t you just tell her there’s a guy you’re trying to avoid?

I have already. It won’t stop me worrying he’ll see me, and come up to us. That’s the issue.

Well if it happens, deal with it. Tell him to get lost.