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Help: Awkward situation with a friend.

My friend and I (really good friend) are mildly awkward, because there is one topic we aren’t talking about. So it’s been hard to have a good flowing conversation. We seem to keep hitting the same topics, beating them into the ground. (which is very not related to the one we are not talking about) Anything else we talk about seems so stupid, silly, shallow, whatever, a joke.

How can I find new ways to bring new topics, to bring the flow back?

(and don’t say talk about that one topic… Neither of us are ready)

Topic ideas?

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calibaby91 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

talk about vacations, shcool, or work, or dances, just hn out… and heres wat i do with a situation like tht, i go to the mall with ht person and just crack on random people lol itll get ur minds off tht topic , and u guy get closer… if ur religiou just mke sure u sk for forgivness… i always do. wats tht topc anyways?

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Lichty 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

haha go do something new! go to the races instead of the movies, go make your own food instead of mcdonalds! new things brings new topics :)

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calibaby91 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Lichty wrote:
haha go do something new! go to the races instead of the movies, go make your own food instead of mcdonalds! new things brings new topics :)

lol theres a better idea, i suggest u try lichty before mine lol

Help me with: Is my dad just being an a$shole or just over protective cuz im really upset and tend to break things when i get that way.

Lichty 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

haha thanks ;) cali. but C.S. try doing even the lamest things you can think about, hes ur pal for a reason and you doing something lame/funny/interesting or anything NOT in the usual will make him like the spontaninuity!

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C. S. 5 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

ha ha :P Good ideas… but actually- that tends to be what we do. I’m more looking for things like How to move the topic into an interesting direction. Completely random and different.

(the topic, because you asked: He asked me out, I accepted- then he got freaked out and canceled the date. Neither of us have dated/kissed/etc. We’re both in college, so you can see how awkward we are just to begin with.)

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calibaby91 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

just tell him that u dont relly mind about him doing tht and u dont ike the akwardness between u.

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Lichty 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

lol then take charge girl! come on! do what you feel! say it too! lol
ask him on that date! he needs to man up. he said yes for a reason :) :)

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C. S. 5 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

Oh, I told him- He couldn’t have a better reaction than I gave. seriously? I was amazing.

Anyways, He is already trying not to be awkward… and mostly succeeding. There is just an elephant in the room and I am the one having difficulty getting over it. He keeps picking the topics- and he says what is on his mind. Well, What is on his mind is “me” and “him” and since we’re not talking about “us” that means he isn’t going to talk about “me”… so the result is him… and it’s fascinating and everything- but he is tired of talking about himself, and I’m tired of him talking and me having less interaction.

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Lichty 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

haha youve thought about this a lot i take it. geez. lol you confused me! start flirting! being more touchy leads for more flowy convos. lol for me at least.

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C. S. 5 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

Lichty wrote:
lol then take charge girl! come on! do what you feel! say it too! lol
ask him on that date! he needs to man up. he said yes for a reason :) :)

I said yes. He asked on the date- and made it clear he was too afraid to continue. It isn’t the date he’s afraid of, we’re practically already “date” (going to places one-on-one on a regular basis) It’s that other stuff he won’t do. And just so you know- I’m really attached to the idea of being kissed on my first kiss. So I’m not going to go up and kiss him or anything.

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Lichty 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

haha he needs to man up, if youre spending that much time together. maybe he doesnt know how to show he likes you. but i gtg. sorry! and good luck!

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C. S. 5 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

Thank you Lichty. Have a good day!

And you’re right, I definably need to break the physical barrier more. Especially since I do want to move forward. As far as thinking about it… Yeah… It is a blessing and a curse. I can be nearly psychic because I think things through so thoroughly… then again- I’m always over-thinking things.

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