What the **** should I do?

Morally Ambiguous JD

What the **** should I do?

I’m split between moving on and trying even harder for this girl.
part of me says i give in to early, to easy all the time and that i should fight and be as stubborn as i can be. the other part of me says that its pointless and i should just walk away. But I really have no idea, maybe i need an outside opinion?

even a woman’s thoughts on what shes thinking. Just opinions, what do you people think?

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Gizmo says:
yeh well im scared of getting into relationships now

Joshua says:
part of me thinks all you need to do is get back on the horse
the other part hopes that’s what you need lol

Gizmo says:
im scared

Joshua says:
I know you are
But I give up on everything. I chat to a girl, and i give up. what chance do i have, but i don’t want to give up on you

Gizmo says:
who was the girl?

Joshua says:
just about any girl ive spoken too
why would they wont me?
so i just give up
because its easier than rejection

Gizmo says:
u shouldn’t give up

Joshua says:
im trying not too
every now and then this girl gives me a signal that hooks me back in.
shows me that she likes me more thn she lets on

Gizmo says:
ok

Joshua says:
and then shuts up and puts up the walls because shes scared
and i don’t know what to do
so ill just keep trying
because i want her, and she wants me but shes too scared
and all i can do is try

Gizmo says:
whose the girl?
whose the girl?

Joshua says:
its a girl i don’t know as well as id like, but one that i love anyway

Gizmo says:
ok
well i gtg

Joshua says:
its you
now your sitting there, no idea what to say or do. so you’ll probably just ignore it and act like i never said it. or just put up a wall and not let me in, or try to push me away because your even more scared now because you feel something too

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Snar 41 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

*hands Josh some of his native whiskey*

What did she say after that? Or did she run off?

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Swwami Dudeananda 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

I was in a very similar situation. And I feel you should go for it. It might end in a rejection, but you shouldn’t take it too hard. At least you tried. I suppose the other n% of men wouldn’t even have tried.
Rejection, if properly channeled, should probably make you feel better. It could even help you change yourself for good. It did help me.
Besides, you need some excitement in life. Or are you content living an insect’s life?

Morally Ambiguous JD 144 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

Snar wrote:
*hands Josh some of his native whiskey*

What did she say after that? Or did she run off?

she ran off, shes back now.. I believe about to tell me what she feels

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Morally Ambiguous JD 144 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

Swwami Dudeananda wrote:
I was in a very similar situation. And I feel you should go for it. It might end in a rejection, but you shouldn’t take it too hard. At least you tried. I suppose the other n% of men wouldn’t even have tried.
Rejection, if properly channeled, should probably make you feel better. It could even help you change yourself for good. It did help me.
Besides, you need some excitement in life. Or are you content living an insect’s life?

I’m going to keep trying. Its all i can do right?

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littlenick 126 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

And you want to give up all together? Do you think being with her would make you happy?

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psych #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

If you love her then you’ll want to understand why she’s scared and to make her feel better.

Don’t harrass the girl with questions, but ask her what frightens her and ask if there’s anything you can do to make her feel less scared.

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Morally Ambiguous JD 144 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

littlenick wrote:
And you want to give up all together? Do you think being with her would make you happy?

I usually just give up, but i cant keep doing that. I’m going to try and keep trying.
I don’t know if she will make me happy, I just don’t want to never find out.

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littlenick 126 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

Because it’s easier to give up. Is that it?

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K i m 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

Woah.
Well Josh, I think that this girl isn’t getting it that clearly, but I’m sure you cleared that right up.
I think you should try hard if it’s something that you really want, if she’s worth it than go for it.
I’m worried that she’s not as mature as you and isn’t quite on your level yet but ease her into it, and let her know how you feel.
Try your best to be her guide and she’ll be yours.
(: Good luck!

Morally Ambiguous JD 144 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

littlenick wrote:
Because it’s easier to give up. Is that it?

its always been easier to just give up instead of being rejected. But im sick of giving up, id rather be rejected now, if at least to mix it up a little.

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~CaitherrA~ 149 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

Has she replied yet? Do you know what she thinks about the situation right now?

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Morally Ambiguous JD 144 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 52 minutes after post)

~CaitherrA~ wrote:
Has she replied yet? Do you know what she thinks about the situation right now?

she says she loves me. But shes scared about what she might do to me. She almost killed her ex, was placed in a psychiatric unit and has tried to kill herself quite a few times. She doesnt want to chance hurting me o trying to hurt me.

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~CaitherrA~ 149 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 4 minutes after post)

Counselling is what’s best for her for now then. And you can help her through it. Let he know that you can be by her side all the time.

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shaker 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 52 minutes after post)

She needs all the support she can get and professional help. That she is afraid and aware of her own unpredictablity is in a way a good sign. If she want she send me a personal email.

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Morally Ambiguous JD 144 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (6 hours, 7 minutes after post)

shes getting professional help.

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