I think I already know but I’d love your advice.

EmilyRI

I think I already know but I’d love your advice.

So I met this guy at work who had a reputation of being a “player”. We were casually seeing eachother….as I refused to get too serious with him for fear of getting hurt. Anyways, after work the other night we went to a work party. It was a lot of fun. He would come up to me every once in a while and give me a kiss. But I’m still very reserved about the whole thing. Anyways, he had many girls around him that we work with. One of the girl’s names was Kelly. I’m not exactly the jealous type and I figure, since we aren’t together, he can do what he wants and I have no right to get mad. After the party him and I went back to his house. We were in bed and he kept asking for a kiss and I would keep giving him one. Then I went and kissed him and he said “I just want to get some sleep” In a very uninviting tone. I felt very uncomfortable. So I went to leave. But he convinced me to stay…
Here’s where I need your help…I turned to say goodnight to him and he goes “Want to get under the covers, Kelly?”(*my name is Emily*) At first I thought I was hearing things and that I was crazy. And when I confronted him about it he didn’t even apologize he just turned over and said “yup. Okay”.
I got so mad I left.
So what does it mean when a guy does something like that??? I seriously felt awful and disgusted.

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darkscorpia 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

he’s a player hun. Sorry.

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EmilyRI 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

I appreciate the honesty!

Anonymous #
4 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

you got to separate your belief in yourself and your worth from what this guy did. he was in a funny mood and it dont sound like he’s all that into you. so go live your life, have a great time and dont get hung up on him coz that is so not worth your while!!!!!!

Sillerious 65 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

I don’t like him. I don’t know him, but I don’t like him. I reckon you should just break off any relationship you have with him that isn’t work-related. He’s not worth your time, and you shouldn’t be made to feel awful like that. That was a horrible thing to do to you, whether he was drunk or not. He’s an A-hole. Simple as. You deserve so much better - that is so cliched but it’s true. Don’t let guys like that walk all over you.

darkscorpia 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

EmilyRI wrote:
I appreciate the honesty!

You’re welcome :)

If you don’t want a relationship, if you want just a friends with benefits thing it’s fine, but you’ll get hurt if you go for anything more i think. He didn’t even care enough to memorize your name you know? I don’t think he’s worth it.

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EmilyRI 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

Sillerious wrote:
I don’t like him. I don’t know him, but I don’t like him. I reckon you should just break off any relationship you have with him that isn’t work-related. He’s not worth your time, and you shouldn’t be made to feel awful like that. That was a horrible thing to do to you, whether he was drunk or not. He’s an A-hole. Simple as. You deserve so much better - that is so cliched but it’s true. Don’t let guys like that walk all over you.

I feel like he prides himself on the fact that some people think he’s an *******. It’s an interesting thing. Thanks for your advice!
The next morning I felt as if I had overreacted but I really think it was wise to leave.

darkscorpia 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

EmilyRI wrote:
I feel like he prides himself on the fact that some people think he’s an *******.

My ex was like that. Till one day, i got him drunk and realized what makes him tick. He acts like an ******* to everybody, and he cheated on me, and went out with my friends, and cheated on them and did so much stuff… and he got really drunk one night and kept saying ‘I’m so ugly oh god i’m so ugly look at me’ and he really really believed it. He acts like an *** just because he can. Self-esteem issues.

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EmilyRI 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (32 minutes after post)

darkscorpia wrote:

EmilyRI wrote:
I feel like he prides himself on the fact that some people think he’s an *******.

My ex was like that. Till one day, i got him drunk and realized what makes him tick. He acts like an ******* to everybody, and he cheated on me, and went out with my friends, and cheated on them and did so much stuff… and he got really drunk one night and kept saying ‘I’m so ugly oh god i’m so ugly look at me’ and he really really believed it. He acts like an *** just because he can. Self-esteem issues.

They just need help. I think sometimes I can help. But clearrrrrly, that’s not true at all. Besides, people have to be willing to change. And if these guys are comfortable being ahole’s then so be it. BLEH

darkscorpia 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (40 minutes after post)

EmilyRI wrote:

darkscorpia wrote:

EmilyRI wrote:
I feel like he prides himself on the fact that some people think he’s an *******.

My ex was like that. Till one day, i got him drunk and realized what makes him tick. He acts like an ******* to everybody, and he cheated on me, and went out with my friends, and cheated on them and did so much stuff… and he got really drunk one night and kept saying ‘I’m so ugly oh god i’m so ugly look at me’ and he really really believed it. He acts like an *** just because he can. Self-esteem issues.

They just need help. I think sometimes I can help. But clearrrrrly, that’s not true at all. Besides, people have to be willing to change. And if these guys are comfortable being ahole’s then so be it. BLEH

lol i agree. I stopped taking their crap. keeps them on their toes. like, ‘OMG what did i do now? sorrysorrysorry’ and i’m like… lol..

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