friends help: The lost art of keeping a secret, should I tell? - Help.com

People tell you these things because it might be relieving for them to get it off their shoulders. It is more the act of being able to say “I was raped” than what actually follows that makes people feel a little better*(for lack of a better word).
Some people are crying out for help and attention and maybe they see something in you that makes them feel they want to share with you their deepest and darkest moments…but that’s all.
Don’t let it overwhelm you. Find an outlet so all of this doesn’t make you lose it!

I think for a lot of people, it’s easier to talk to a stranger about their feelings and secrets rather than someone they’ve known for along time. So maybe the people who have told you secrets only tell you their secrets because they know they won’t be seeing you again. I know that’s not very nice but you’ve gotta understand that if you allow people to tell you their secrets, they’re going to go away and hope they never see you again, simply because you now know their deepest darkest secrets. They’ve relieved some of their insecurities by telling you them, and once they’ve done that they want to leave it all behind them.
Maybe you should just stop people from telling you their secrets. Just next time someone looks like they’re about to open up to you, you need to stop them somehow. It’s not going to be easy, but you can try.

To be happy, you need to face up to your own problems and your own secrets instead of others. Maybe one of the reasons you allow people to tell you their secrets is because you want some way to forget your own?

you could be proud of yourself for providing a great service to people in pain.

I think listening is all you can do, and it is really really helpful. Some people just need someone to listen to them. You don’t necessarily have to make them feel better about their situation or their problems. By giving them the chance to speak to you about their problems is enough. I’m sure they’re realy grateful for it too. And don’t take it personally when they up and leave. It’s just what they feel they need to do.

The only way two people can keep a secret is if one of them is dead.

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Friendships are different for so many people. they don’t work in any particualr way. It may be that you’re just afraid of letting people into your life? Or you’re not very sociable? Maybe you need to ask yourself what kind of a friend you’re looking for.

How would you end up hurting them? That’s silly. I think thats probably the root of your problem. To think that way is to make yourself eventually believe it to be true. But I’m sure it isn’t. You’ve gotta be a little bit more positive about yourself. What is it about yourself that you think would hurt other people?

sounds like you’re depressed.

er, exercise, dull, i know, but it releases chemicals in your brain that simply make you feel better. endorphines. do it quite a lot and you will feel weird improvements and everything will look more straight forward.

go running?

swim?

That’s a good idea. I find swimming really realxing. Try swimming to take your mind off things.

Well, maybe you’ll be able to figure out your emotions and stuff tomorrow. I hope it goes well for you. Just try and be a little bit more positive about yourself. You’re a great person for listening to others while they share their secrets with you.
If you need someone to talk to, you can shout me anytime. =)

S you are a brilliant person, don’t let yourself think otherwise, everybody has there problems.
Really glad you are getting out more often. You know where I am if you need me. V x

Glad to hear it! Its great to see you so positive!!!

I have the same…all probs come to me… im a magnet lol