crush help: Just a rant I guess, I like someone I’ve never met. - Help.com

Run.. Just turn in the other direction and start running. There are no simple crushes.. Simple crushes can crush your life. This is not real. These are just words on a screen.. voice chat is nothing but electronic signals.. video chat is the same..

It is not holding someone hand, it is not kissing or hugging or even just talking.

I know how real it seems.. Ive been there..I paid a huge price for trying to make real something that was not.

Please, just stop, turn and run.

Been there done that, got the t-shirt.

I fell for an online friend about 8 years ago after we met and chatted for two years. She is an awesome and amazing woman and gave me the emotional slap to the head I needed to get out of a bad relationship I was in. We are still friends to this day even though we have never met in person. I’m not sure how she feels about me but her marriage did get stronger when 7 years ago her husband made a comment about leaving. I called him and told him “If you leave I am sure I will be one of many men knocking on the door to ask an amazing woman like her out!” He brought flowers for her that day and asked for forgiveness for his stupidity. She was a bit upset about me calling him but thanked me later for it.

We are still friends.

I agree with Joe, long-distance relationships are just a heartache away. Ive definitely had my fair share and am passing on the news. And if its a serious crush I’d advise telling yourself that it juts isn’t going to happen. Sometimes its better to forget than having to forgive yourself for what you put yourself through.

Thanks guys. He doesn’t live that far away from me though - a city away. We don’t talk about anything weird, just Christian stuff and God mostly - to some this might be weird. I don’t know what he’s really like in person so I won’t get my hopes up or anything and wouldn’t consider dating him unless I know he feels remotely the same way and that he’s a normal person…

… define normal?

lol

Well if hes that close then see what happens, if its meant to be then its meant to be. (or something like that)

Normal: Not a psycho who want to drag me into their lair to test out their latest torture methods, or kill me. :D

Well ‘normals’ want to drag you into their life and dramas and test out their latest expectations on you, which is worse than being piled up naked and have a hill billy girl point and laugh at you.

LOL so true Joe.

Yeah, the fact is none of us is normal. We are all broken. In our own way. We are all damaged goods. We have our psychoses and neuroses which we try to justify or disown. We all look for external validation when all we really need is to look at a mirror and say ‘**** it! This is who I am and that’s OKAY!’. We need to stop needing someone to tell us that we’re fine the way we are or for us to conform to some 20 established labels of society. You do not need to be a sweetie or a jerk.. you do not need to be anything!

Going back to your original rant, I can see something of myself. I am in love with this amazing girl who works with me. She brightens up my day like nothing else. But I am also in love with my ex. I hate the fact that the world says I must chose, I hate it that my love for one of them must remain a secret and I hate it that people tell me it is not okay to feel what I feel. Because I did not chose to feel this. I just do.

So sorry for what I started!

What?

No problem. I don’t mind at all. It was just a rant on my part so others may rant if they have the same troubles.

I don’t have troubles. They are my ‘experiences’. :P

experiences then. :P

So you guys think I should try and see if it comes to anything? I think it’s just a stupid crush on my part. I get a different crush every week. Sometimes a few at a time. Feelings are so easy to get mixed up.

How old are you? If you don’t mind my asking.

What do you mean by ‘try’? There is no trying love! You’re either in or you’re out.. or you’re on the sidelines.

I’m 22. LOL and feeling like a teenager. I guess I can’t really try it hey because he doesn’t like me back. lol. I’ll get over the crush soon enough.

22 is good age! Wish I were 22!

Well you could always be buddies.

LOL.. How old are you that you wish you were 22? I will try the buddies thing.

27 now. Its all just downhill from here. lol